Is this the end?

[Boymum1995]

I feel so torn currently in my relationship.
Been together for 10 years (since 18), have one DS together.
I will say we have been through a lot together in those 10 years! But over the last year I feel like I have fallen out of love and I don’t know what to do. I have read forum after forum, I’ve read books that have been recommend.. I don’t know whether this is something that can be saved or if it’s a lost cause.
My situation is not an easy “just leave scenario” my son is my priority and he is happy in our family unit, which holds it together, we also run a business together..
I feel drained from thinking about this all the time, constantly feeling up and down about it.
We also moved into a new home 2 months ago (I thought this would help somewhat but it may have been a mistake, it’s just a much nicer home and area for my son to grow up)
There is no abuse, we can still get along and have a life, days out as a family etc etc, I just don’t know if there is actually love there for me in a romantic sense?
Any advice or similar stories? 🙏🏼

This will be an unpopular opinion but would you consider just staying married?
Would you be leaving for the possibility of romance elsewhere? You would probably be incredibly disappointed with the calibre of men out there, read the OLD (online dating) threads to see what I mean.
If there is security, no abuse or bad feeling and your life is stable...There's a lot worse out there and people stay in much worse relationships.

I totally agree, I don’t think there necessarily would be anyone else out there and that’s not my motivation for feeling like this. I think my fear is that I’d be spending the next 10-20 years in a relationship that’s not filled with love (from my side, not his) but I’m starting to think this might be how I am, I’m not an affectionate person.

Well I can see your dilemma, but would a new relationship bring on your ability to be affectionate, if you are not an affectionate person.

I could understand you leaving if you wish your husband to be able to experience reciprocal love, and it would be a pity for him to live without being and feeling loved.

I actually said this to him the other day, he said he would have left by now if he wasn’t happy with what I give him already, he feels the same as we first met! Which is lovely, but heartbreaking that it’s not reciprocated