Did your Ex Husband go on to have more children

[pallymo]

I have recently separated from DH, together for 16 years and we are both 33. 3 children together.

I'm just wondering a few things really. How likely is it that he will meet some one and go on to have more children, he says he definitely doesn't want anymore I mean he can't even cope with our ones but I'm curious. Especially given his age and if he meets a women of similar then she may want children or more.

Also I find it a weird concept about meeting someone else in the future because I was with DH for so long it feels strange, I can't explain it but also slightly exciting. My focus at the moment is for the children so that's my priority always. I've no intentions of getting into any relationships. I do not want anymore children though.

I wasn't married to DS1's dad, but he got into a very intense relationship about 6 weeks after we split up and another 2 weeks later she was pregnant! She also had another child from a previous relationship, not currently living with her at the time, who he took on as a "stepfather". However the mother had quite severe problems and both children ended up getting taken off her by social services and placed for adoption. He didn't keep his own child they asked him apparently and he said no. (The baby was the spitting image of him, so not a case of disputed paternity, I don't think).

He then went on to meet someone else a few years later and had a third child with her, as far as I know they are still together several years after this. He doesn't have contact with either of his older two children.

My ex left just under 3 years ago, our youngest was under a year old & the OW was already pregnant (I think) or got pregnant within weeks, I found out after he'd left that she had already been pregnant but had lost it, while he was still living with us, they have 2 kids now, had 2 basically back to back so between them they have 7 kids as he also got someone pregnant when I was expecting our second (found out after he left, but he has nothing to do with that child as he is in foster care as the mom has severe mental health issues, she sees him & he is the absolute double of my son's)

My DC are adults and have virtually no relationship with their father .

Kids' dad had the snip so no more for him - but then he was nearly 50 when we split. Went on to remarry (a really lovely lady who was great with the kids, which was just as well because he had no interest and didn't even SEE them for the first five years), but she was older. No half-siblings for my lot.

Over 6 couples i know 2 men went on to have more 1 woman. In all 6 relationships bar 1 there are also step children

He hasn’t as yet. He is 48 and she is 32 with 2 young kids. It did surprise me he moved in with her as he wasn’t interested in DD who is slightly older.

I know she always wanted more kids so she would have 3 kids by 3 dads if they did have a baby. I bet my mortgage they will have one.

My ex showed very little interest in the two children we had and when he left he didn't bother to pay child support nor see them, apart from walking by them in our street to get to the OW's house every day.
He then went on to have 2 more with her.

Yes my ex did, he went onto have another. Between them they now have five between the ages of 34 to 10

I read an interesting article recently, there has always been this thrown about statistic which says that kids of single mums are most likely to end up in jail out compared to kids who grow up in a 2 parent home. People then use that as a statistic to basically bash single mums

however, it then went on to say that, actually, the highest % of kids who go to jail are those whose fathers went on to meet another woman and had kids with the new woman and then abandoned their original kids. They then quoted a figure of how many fathers, who went on to have kids with a new woman, actually entirely stop contact with their original kids. I can’t quite remember the number but it was something astonishingly high like 70%!

ps this was a US based study

My ex DH did. Very quickly.

My ex's now wife unfortunately can't have children, though she longs for one. She takes on a brilliant second mum role with our son and we get on really well. My ex would've been happy to have another child but it's unfortunately looking unlikely for them.

My now DH had two children when we met and his ex was convinced that we would go on to have children together and told their eldest daughter this would happen so be prepared to be 'pushed out'. Which was strange. I never wanted another child and he was indifferent. Now he has had a lot of heavy duty chemo so chances of having one is near on impossible even if we did want one