Should I be worried

[Simplelife10]

Should I be worried that my partner is searching up attractive women on social media?

I was using his Facebook to look for something and I seen numerous females in his search bar. He was there while I was using his phone, I wasn't checking up or snooping.

I feel a little deflated and insecure now. Am I being ridiculous?

I'm sorry OP but you're not being insecure, does he know these girls he's looking up?

One or two of them possibly but definitely not all of them.

I wouldnt be happy and I'd feel very insecure because that's how I am.
Have you spoke to him about it?

Rather than insecure @Simplelife10 you should be fucking raging. How dare he carry on like that? Actually he’s not worth it, get rid, you deserve much better.

I haven't spoken about it, but I will. How do I even bring that up? After seeing that, i should mention this did make me check his activity on social media and there are no likes/comments on female profiles just his friends and family. I'm aware I shouldn't have checked that it was out of sheer panick.

Just dump him.

Life's too short to put up with that bs.

I don't get the issue personally.

So long as they aren't local girls who he knows.

Sounds like he was just looking for wanking material. Grim. But not a big deal.

Sorry but I think your bar is way too low.

Sometimes we see threads like this and the general concensus is he's not messaging, there's no harm done, otherwise times it's a ltb. My personal take is this is pretty grim and would, I think, put me off my partner if he was doing this as I'd assume he's just being pervy. Is this a one off, or over different days with different women?

These are women from an area where his friends are from, if he were to go for a night out in that area I now would be feeling uncomfortable. Also if I see him online now I will be wondering is that how he's spending his time online.

I want to bring it up to him but I'm not even sure how to, its going to come across like I was snooping.

Why? It's not even porn (which for some reason, lots of people are OK with).

You've never googled someone hot? A celeb? Qn old school crush?

He's not doing anything out of line like commenting on their pages.

It's a total non issue.

Or it was, until ops update which NOW states they might be people who are local. Which arguably changes tthings. Might indicate He's met them on nights out with friends and maybe thinking to cheat.

I don't think I'd say anything. Provided he's not actually messaging anyone. But maybe if I felt I had to...I'd jokingly go 'oh so Miranda huh, yeah she's a bit of alright! You dirty dollop! Bit out of line though darling don't you think? Maybe keep the wank bank searches to celebs and people you'll never bump into, ok?'.

Sometimes people skirting risky territory just need a quick pull up on it.

That might be all there is to it.

But if he starts crossing lines, after this, then don't be slow to walk away.

Honestly, I have the exact same issue.
Which lately has become such a problem for me. I am insecure and feel like a fool.

My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, married for less then a year.
Baby on the way, I am 32 weeks.

He is so loving and caring, I won't deny that however;

His search history always has porn videos, instagram posts about only women
Even his YouTube shorts only show stuff about women.

I don't know how to deal with it. I have spoken to him about it probably 3 different times in our relationship but i think he might get better at hiding it. He told me it's honestly nothing to worry about.

But, why do you feel the need to look at it? To seach for it, am I not enough, yes I get it. You are a man, "in your nature" but surely you are secretly fantasizing about those woman and I am afraid that your fantasy world is more enjoyable to you then your actual wife?

He doesn't really share his sexual fantasties with me, he obviously enjoys his private time more... we have sex about once a week?

I just wish I could be enough for one person. He obviously lacking something. Am i doing it wrong?

Consider ending the relationship if his behavior bothers you and erodes your trust, and lowers your self esteem. Don't let yourself become consumed by worry and suspicion.

Are you experiencing mobility limitations, or is his phone the sole electronic device accessible?

If neither, despite his presence, you were intruding on his privacy.

What specific information were you seeking on his social media profile that you couldn't obtain elsewhere or discuss with him directly without using his phone?

There is no 'should' when it comes to feelings. Who would decide what you 'should' feel?

You are uncomfortable with what you've found out about him. Deal with that, rather than working out whether you're 'right' to feel it.