Suggesting counselling?

[Loulou560]

Hi
My DP and I would benefit from counselling and I don’t know how to bring it up.
I want to do this as I feel that someone neutral would help put some of the things he’s put me through into perspective. I understand that I’m not perfect either, but this isn’t about blame. I want to save this relationship. He buries his head in the sand, and I’ve allowed some things to continue which are clearly unfair to me and our DC. Again, I’m not blaming him, as he’s got issues too, but he needs to be real about some things, which are causing me to resent him.
Has anyone else done this, and how did you approach it please?

You're just going to have to go for it. It might help if you find a few people in advance and ask him to choose one?

Has he been violent or abusive? If so you cannot go to most counselling I believe.

Why are you adamant you won’t blame him for anything? What has he ‘put you through’?

Hi @AndThatWasNY no nothing like that. I’m talking financial difficulties and issues he has with depression originating from his childhood.

@TwilightSkies well, there may be some blame from his end, more to do with not addressing his own issues. He tried to cover up some financial difficulties which ultimately affect the whole family.