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I added my first love on social media

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WheelWorks · 03/02/2024 22:05

Long story short, I was with my first love for 3 years before we broke up nearly 10 years ago. We were young and in our early 20s back then, things just fizzled out. I've always thought about her but eventually we went our separate ways, she got in to a relationship with another guy for a few years but eventually he ended up cheating on her, this was around 2017.

At the start of 2019, she did add me on social media but she didn't say anything to me so a few days later I ended up deleting her because I realised I still wasn't over her. At the end of 2019 I heard that she was engaged, she ended up getting married but then I heard she got divorced around a year and a half ago.

A few weeks ago I found out that the reason for her divorce was because her husband cheated on her and was abusive towards her.

As for me I have been single for a few years now, I have been evolving in my career and proud of how far I've come and I am due to start a new chapter in my career next week.

I considered getting in touch with her a few months ago but I noticed that she had cut off a lot of people from her social media so I wasnt too sure how she'd react to me adding her, I thought she'd reject me seen as she's cutting if a lot of people.

So yesterday I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she has accepted and also followed me back. She's also been viewing my stories, I haven't spoke to her yet.

Is this a positive? Any advice would be appreciated, thanks

OP posts:
Sotired22 · 03/02/2024 22:18

Just message her and say hi! There’s no point wondering forever, ask how she is and if the chat goes well then suggest meeting for a drink? Go for it!

LetsPutTheKettleOn · 04/02/2024 07:15

You could message her "hi, nice to reconnect after all these years, hope you've been well, let's stay in touch."
You don't need to overthink it .

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