Happier single

[ladykatrina]

Just wondered if there were others who have or had no interest in dating at all but still managed to meet a partner eventually?

I have been single all of my 30s and never married but at the stage now where i think i have managed without a relationship so what is the point in one.

I still have a very high sex drive but deep down i prefer being single. I don't enjoy dating at all so what really is the point in it if you don't like it.

I am quite content in my own company and don't want the unnecessary stress of modern dating.

None of my relationships have been great and i think it's because i actively searched for them. I'd rather just let things happen naturally in future if it happens.

I'm totally like this, single through the major of my 30s, married before and just so happy with my own company and set up

I was single till 45. Was very happy with my life, but did feel I would like to meet someone. Have had two relationships. Am single again. Not as happy as I used to.be when I was single. Takes time to adjust.

If you’re happier single, great! Why feel pressured into something you don’t like? Although if you have a high sex drive and don’t like dating, may I ask out of interest what you do about that?

I am quite lonely being single, like I am now. But find dating deeply disappointing, and single is way better than the past two abusive relationships I’ve been in. So, I wish I could be more happily single like you

I’m older than you (55) and been single 4 years and have to say I’m very happy on my own. If I met someone who I really clicked with then great but I won’t settle

For me having an active social life is the key to having a full and content single life. I do what I want when I want with no one to answer to and that would be very hard to give up. I also never want to cohabit again, I love my own space too much.

I have a high sex drive too and that’s the hardest thing about being long term single. But I’m someone who needs a real connection before I have sex - I can’t do casual however much I miss it.

Ive been single since my youngest was born 19 year now.
And i love it wouldnt change it I do what i want when i what no one to stop me.
No man No drama i have my home how i want it no bloody mess no moaning and no need for sex never liked it anyway.
Cook if want i dont have to cook king size bed all for me.
Relaxing at a spa when i want read chessey mills and boon books.
And no bloody drinking around me.
No one to answer to bliss.
Go out no one bugging me on the phone come home my home is the way i left it clean.
No worries no stressing no blame games yep the list goes on.
No clutter no arguments have my friends round when i want.
I can honestly say i could not live with a man or date one.
I only have to read MN to see how lucky i am.

@RosieAway Nothing at the moment. But id rather stick my head in an oven then try apps again.

@RosieAway Sorry to hear you have been in abusive relationships. No one should ever have to experience abuse. I think abusive relationships are more common than is talked about in society.

I think happy marriages are few and far between.

It's a gradual process of accepting being single indefinitely but i tell myself i am not someones option til something better comes along and won't settle for a shitty mediocre relationship.

@SamW98 I don't think i could live with someone again either.
I would have to meet someone in person if i was to have a proper relationship and refuse to settle too.
I plan on joining the gym at some point this year again as i do find exercise helps my mental health so that is one goal for me.

@BCBird I definitely feel it would take major adjustment for me to find a ltr at this stage. Not impossible but i don't want it enough anymore.

@spicedlemonpie Sounds ideal bliss!

I'm jealous of those of you in your 50's with a high sex drive! In my 50's and married 2nd time. I will never have another partner. I'd never meet someone as kind, generous and exceptional as dh so why even bother.. I too would rely on my friendships to enhance my life.. and probably get a dog.

Reading some of your experiences of living being single is so inspiring.

I’m happy with my own company. I’ve had phases in my life when l’ve enjoyed being single. I’ve still had sex with people during those times though. Otherwise l would have been crawling up the wall.

It's not ideal but I'd phrase it slightly differently. I'm not that happy being single BUT...
I'd rather be single than date the available men out there who are interested in me. (I am 47F)

Developing strong friendships has been the best thing for me. Maybe I’m lucky fly but I have quite a few single friends so there’s always someone for a night out, weekend away, holiday in the sun etc. I’ve actually got a better social life than I had in my 20’s and the friendships are deeper because we are older and all accept each others faults and quirks so much better.

Anyone I did meet now would need to understand that having our own lives is essential and I would want them to have friends hobbies and interests too.

Happily single here.

Divorced 4 years ago and have had some relationships in between some casual and one more serious but where I've been on my own and not living with someone I am at the stage of being what's the point? About it all.

I think if your financialy independent, enjoy space and have things the way you want it takes someone very special to disrupt that. In my experience of dating there aren't that many people that special to share it with so why bother.

Occasionally I miss sex but as someone else said there has to be a connection for me to enjoy this. I can't be bothered to get to the connection phase!

@StarlightLady Where did you meet men out of interest just for fun?

@Lookingforunicorns I find you lose so much of yourself when dating so why bother. I've always been someone's option til something better comes along.

So most men can honestly go shove a red hot poker up their fart hole 😭

Replying with some trepidation because I've been shot down in flames on MN before. I don't do the online thing. I've met people through various hobbies, on nights out, plus I travel a lot for work and sometimes someone nice and something nice happens along the way.

In addition, I have some (geographically) distant friends that I see from time to time. I've always been of the school of thought that there's nothing wrong with having sex with a good friend. Real friends come with trust.

I expect someone will now come along with the name calling. I've been told on MN before that they had names for girls like me when they were at school. Yep, I was a happy girl.