Too much free time with kids

[comeonlabour]

So my DH works all week and I work 2 days a week. We have 2 children ages 6 and 3. I kinda feel that weekends should be family time but he's always out and about seeing friends. He is at home parts of the day but out a fair bit too. He says I'm controlling but I disagree and think weekends should be family time

Opinions pls

If he works all week then I suppose weekend need to be part about it family and part about socialisations and relaxing for him. You also should have time for all those things too. It’s getting the balance isn’t it. I don’t think all weekend needs to be centred on doing whole family things.

It needs to be a balance of friends and family surely. If he works 5 days and you want the weekends as family time, when would he see friends / do his own hobbies? You need to decide between you what balance you need to reach.

You can have family time at any time and I think it's fine for both of you to spend time going out and seeing friends.

We used to aside family time and do things like -

Movie night either Friday or Sat night
Breakfast and outdoors on Sunday morning
A family day out once a month
Visit family once a month.
Sunday dinner

Hmmm, I think it depends on whether you get to be "out and about seeing friends" too. If his freedom at weekends comes at the price of you doing all the childcare then I think that is an issue.
You should both be able to kick back at weekends and have a balance of time to yourself and a bit of family time too.
Weekends don't have to be ALL family time imo but there does need to be fairness in how the leisure time is organised between you.

It's all about balance.

We have a similar set up to you in the week and on weekends we have a mix of family days, seeing our own friends in the evenings (not every weekend maybe once or twice a month) having a date night, taking it in turns to go to the gym etc.

Imo its not common or fair to spend every weekend catching up with friends when you have a family.