How to contact chap on Tinder who 'can't see likes'?

[SpringGlow50]

New to OLD. How on earth do I do this? He's asked prospective matches to message him instead???

If you match you can message him. If you swipe right and don't match then you can't message him. Pointless thing for him to say really but what he means is he hasn't paid for premium so can't see who swiped right on him before he can choose whether to swipe right himself.

That's not how tinder works.
How things go is you like his profile, he likes yours. You match. One of you messages first, it doesn't matter who.

People who say 'can't see likes' are usually sowing the seeds to get you to message them offline for sexting or harvesting social media followers.
Or they are have profile but remove the app notifications on their phones so their partners don't find out.

You can only message once you match so you need to like him and then if he likes you too you match and go from there.

Good grief don't be so gullible.

Don’t know about Tinder (and he might not either by the sounds of it) but I’ve been on other dating apps in the past where you didn’t see if anyone ‘likes’ you, unless you pay for a premium subscription, however you would still see messages. I didn’t have premium so I wouldn’t be aware if someone clicked ‘like’ and then waited for me to like them back or message.

Don’t

He’s bypassing the whole process
The entire point of Tinder matches is that nobody can contact each other without both swiping a yes
Its designed purposely to not see who has liked you

(I’ve not been on Tinder for a long time, but an upgraded account or after market apps could prioritise people who have already liked you) and the standard tinder would show you people who meet your preferences, they may or may not have already liked you

If you like someone who has already liked you then you get an ‘instant’ match, if you like first then you get notified later that you have been matched

The red flag is those who want to get you out of the app straight away, and use ‘can’t see likes/messages’ etc
Keep all contact within OLD apps until you’ve met and screened ‘in real life’

If he really did want to buck the system then he could just like every profile in the area, then when anyone else likes there is an instant match

The ‘right’ way is to like who you like, which filters out those who you would have no interest in as opposed to everyone in sight