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Are there rules of dating?

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Lilllypad11 · 02/02/2024 23:31

Im really new to it. My friends say date multiple people at once and keep options open. But I find that hard, I’m so busy I don’t really have time to get to know multiple men and go on multiple dates. I’m also really fussy. So as much as I want to I just don’t feel it works for me?

What would you say are key rules for dating for someone who’s come out of a relatively long relationship? I’m really slow with things too. I’m in no rush

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CherryPiePiePie · 02/02/2024 23:33

It’s a personal choice isn’t it? You don’t have to follow rules but many people do, I’m on a fb group for dating advice and they have a long list of rules to follow.

SamW98 · 02/02/2024 23:35

The only ‘rules’ are do what’s right for you and what you’re comfortable with.

Don’t feel you have to multi date if it’s not what you’re comfortable with. Some people are happy to, others don’t.

Personally I think the arbitrary made up rules are BS

Opentooffers · 02/02/2024 23:39

Follow your own rules is the rule. Don't compromise, if you want loyalty don't settle for casual.

purpleme12 · 02/02/2024 23:56

I would do dating multiple people

KeiraKnightley2 · 02/02/2024 23:59

Multi dating doesn't work for me, OP. I tried it before and felt like I was cheating. And also started mixing stories up from what the other had told me, which didn't help!

Mine probably isn't the best approach though.

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Lilllypad11 · 03/02/2024 00:02

KeiraKnightley2 · 02/02/2024 23:59

Multi dating doesn't work for me, OP. I tried it before and felt like I was cheating. And also started mixing stories up from what the other had told me, which didn't help!

Mine probably isn't the best approach though.

Omg yes that’s how I feel about it. I feel I’m two timing someone. It feels a bit crap if I’m honest. But I’ve been cheated on so it’s probs why I feel so strongly about it.

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KeiraKnightley2 · 03/02/2024 00:06

I've been cheated on too - but I actually felt this way before that happened!

It just isn't in my make up to dating several people. It means I date less overall which I acknowledge isn't the best technique.

That being said - I've been with current partner 5 months. Before we met I had a date with him and another guy lined up. For a first date or so, I think it's ok. But after that, I'd struggle. I wouldn't force yourself to so anything that makes you feel uncomfortable @Lilllypad11

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Lilllypad11 · 03/02/2024 00:10

KeiraKnightley2 · 03/02/2024 00:06

I've been cheated on too - but I actually felt this way before that happened!

It just isn't in my make up to dating several people. It means I date less overall which I acknowledge isn't the best technique.

That being said - I've been with current partner 5 months. Before we met I had a date with him and another guy lined up. For a first date or so, I think it's ok. But after that, I'd struggle. I wouldn't force yourself to so anything that makes you feel uncomfortable @Lilllypad11

yeah. I just like to see where one thing will go at a time. I can’t do more than one.

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SamW98 · 03/02/2024 00:14

I don’t know how people find enough men to multi date 🤣
I did OLD for about 6 months and can count on my fingers the men I wanted to meet up with.

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