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Pining after someone who is breadcrumbing me

9 replies

Redvelvet84 · 02/02/2024 21:23

I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months, really like him and have caught feelings. It started really well but now has become a situation where he doesn't make time to see me and doesn't make dates in advance. Everything is very last minute , on a whim, or an afterthought. It's so obvious he is now breadcrumbing me.
I said to him that I hardly see him and we had a bit of a texting exchange back and forth where I said it was obvious he doesn't care and I'm just going to date other people. I hoped it would make him jealous somehow but it backfired as he said he can't stop me from seeing other people. I'm gutted , I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks now.
I wish there was a switch where I could just turn off my feelings. I wish I hadn't said about me seeing other people as feel that has properly ended it.

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Spain1986 · 02/02/2024 21:25

Dating is so crap. Every time you find someone you like, they never feel the same. God help us.

Dotchange · 02/02/2024 21:25

He shows he isn’t interested by not bothering to see you.
You are being incredibly childish by trying to make him jealous.

Work on yourself and then consider a relationship

Dustydoilies · 02/02/2024 21:28

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saveforthat · 02/02/2024 21:31

What is breadcrumbing?

fedupandstuck · 02/02/2024 21:33

I don't know what bread crumbing is but don't tolerate disinterested behaviour like this. It isn't going to get any better. Cut him off and move on. Find someone who is keen to see you and thinks of you first.

Redvelvet84 · 02/02/2024 21:36

What's frustrating is , if it was someone I didn't care about then I would just delete and block and enforce boundaries, but because I like him so much, I'm letting him do this..I consider myself to have self worth but my self worth seems to go out the window when I have feelings for someone. Everytime my phone pings, I'm praying it's him and it never is.

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Muffin777 · 02/02/2024 21:37

It was over before you ‘ended it’ by saying you were seeing other people. So no point being upset about that.

he wasn’t that interested, at least now you know and you can find someone who is instead of wasting your time.

SquirrelSoShiny · 02/02/2024 21:40

You liked him but you're his back up booty call. Allow yourself a few days to feel sad then move on, celebrating the fact he showed you early.

fedupandstuck · 02/02/2024 21:41

I'd try and find some anger perhaps. Get angry at him treating you as an afterthought.

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