Panic attacks in pregnancy because of break up/ex

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I am 7 months pregnant with our second child and my ex broke up with me about 2 months ago but I’m starting to realise he checked out a while ago but anyways!

I’ve applied for child support and received an email to say they will be contacting him shortly. I feel sick to my stomach, scared and I keep having panic attacks about it and our break up.

he knows I’ve applied for it and he says he’s not going to work much over time now and wants to have our toddler over night (he’s never been a dad before it’s really only been me looking after her etc) so I don’t want this as my toddler screams as it is when she goes for a few hours with him.. I just want some kind words or advice I guess? I don’t know but I’m fed up of feeling this way.

ex blames me for everything, he hasn’t apologised to me ever for making me feel this way and when I tell him this is what he wanted he tells me “no it wasn’t” “I never chose for it to be like this” “I didn’t mean it to come across as it did(he means the breaking up with me part)” but he’s not once tried to fix this… so I second guess myself and panic that maybe it is my fault? And i am the one who is making this to be “really” over by going to CMS! I practically begged him to stay but he told me he hasn’t thought about our second baby and that he’s falling out of love with me… I’m a mess

Do you think he will ignore your toddler if he screams all night? I highly doubt it. Either he’ll reduce contact or he’ll figure out how to parent now it’s not a option to pretend he’s doing something when you’re actually doing everything.
Have you spoken to your midwife about the situation? There’s more help available for mental health difficulties (like panic attacks) during pregnancy and the postpartum period because unfortunately it’s a time when circumstances become extremely stressful for lots of women. Panic attacks are horrible but there are ways of learning to manage them so they don’t last so long or feel so intense.

And clearly your ex is a dick but you need some help with coping with the shit situation and the anxiety and sadness it’s caused you. It doesn’t necessarily make that much difference whether he recognizes the pain his actions have caused or not. You’re still the one is going to have to learn to deal with the pain.
Have you heard of the ´grey rock’ technique?