Help me create some house rules for DP!

[Rhymenocerous]

First is going to have to be;

1 Pick up after yourself

2 Put things back where you got them from

3 Picking a pile of gaming magazines up and putting them down somewhere else on the floor but in a more tidy pile is NOT tidying up!

4 Pick up after DS while getting him to help you

5 When clutter gets to maximum density, make a joint effot with the other adult to clear it, not argue that "you do it all the time" when all you actually do is point 3 overe and over again

if dh tried to set me "rules" i would have a hairy canary

Oh, he sets rules all the time. There is no hipiocrisy here

lol Rhyme - my DH has severe back problems that I suspect at times he 'plays on.'

I go mad at him because he picks nothing up from any floor. He simply rubs his back and says 'I wish I could help love but you know how things are.'

I have never, ever though found any coin or note that he must have dropped over the years. The man who cant tidy anything but would 'swoop' for a 1p coin

maybe instead of setting each other rules you could sit down and talk about what you both would like from each other? Just a suggestion.

(and yeah, i know that's not as easy at is sounds)

I would:
a)pick my battles -decide what things you can live with and what things you absolutely can't
b)simplify it a bit - those 5 things above could probably all be stated as ?I really need you to help me keep things tidy around here?

Good luck!

What a skiver

Put a big sign up saying

"BEND YOUR KNEES YOU LAZY SOD!"

I agree in proncipal SM;

but what happens when many sits downs have happend, and kind reminders then turn into nags and even I get tired of the sound of my own voice?

I have one child not two. And I really resent that he does this in front of DS who he knows, even at school, they try to teach to tidy up after yourself.

And that is the point - I have decided that I do not want to live the rest of my life picking up his crap.