Do I go away or not?

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I'm due to go away for a 3 night trip with a bunch of people I've never met before, all sharing rooms together, however the others already know each other and I've been invited along by the person leading the trip who I know from a mum's group I attended a few years ago.

I've been nervous about going but told myself I'd be brave and go and that it would be great to go and enjoy the outdoors with like minded people and the activities on offer. However, both myself and my children have been poorly for around 2 weeks. I got worse on Tuesday/Wednesday and spent 2 days in bed with a fever. I am starting to feel better but very low on energy and my throat is extremely swollen and painful. The GP assures me it is just viral but I am snoring loudly at night through swelling in my throat and waking myself up and also coughing through the night.

I'm now extremely conscious about having to share a room with others who I'll no doubt keep awake at night. It is too late for me to get a refund and I've paid a small fortune for this trip. I'm also conscious about not being able to do as much from an energy point of view and holding the group back. I've not prepared or packed a thing as I've been so run down with illness and also worrying about the children who are on antibiotics but are getting better.

Ive no idea what to do.
I feel like I'm wasting a load of money if I don't go but also very anxious that I'm not well enough physically or mentally. Also genuinely concerned that my snoring/heavy breathing/coughing is going to keep everyone awake at night. What would you do?

Part of me really wants a restful weekend free of commitments and being with people I don't know feels it could be hard work. I emailed the group lead yesterday but it is too late to get my place filled.
Would you go?

Is it possible to get a private room? I'm assuming you leave Friday so you have one more day to recover. If you have a partner, is he fine with handling the kids while you are away?

I think I would wait until Friday morning to see you you feel. It's not really fair on the people you are with if you are not up to par, and possibly spreading a virus.

Apparently a private room isn't an option unfortunately @mdinbc . There is the option for me to sleep on a sofa in the communal area, but I worry about others wanting to get up before I'm awake and creeping around me.

My partner is fine with the children and he would call me if there are any problems.

I’m a light sleeper so if I was going away and sharing a room I’d always take ear plugs just in case. In fact I use them even on my own sometimes. They should be prepared knowing they’ll share with someone who may snore, cough or get up in the night etc.

As for the energy then maybe you could join in on the first day but it’s a bit much could you go back to the hotel? Presuming you’re getting yourself there could you see how you get on and leave early if necessary? Seems a shame to miss out altogether.

You’ve already got a thread about this in AIBU.

That's correct @Berlinlover . It's always interesting to see how responses vary in the different forums.

Berlinlover - why is that important for you to say?