So bear with me...after a difficult period, my husband and I have separated temporarily(my choice). I'm 37,he's 38, and we have a DS who is 7.
In a nutshell, in September last year I found he'd been msging a another woman(24) this included pictures also,but nothing more. At this point we had been drifting apart for about 12-18 months before. I chose to work through this with him giving him another chance,trying to build trust again which has been happening,but our relationship has still been difficult. Then the first week in January this year, the strain of it all made me call a temporary separation on things,which I know is the right decision for me as an individual and as a mother.
He is now going to counselling to work through his childhood issues,and is making positive changes in his parenting choices(he has struggled at times in the past which has also been part of the problem)
He is now sleeping in his office to give us both time and space.
He is a good man,who has made bad choices at times and handled things badly as far as his mental health is concerned. As it stands we are comfortable living together and co-parenting,we're talking regularly about what's on our minds.
But their is still alot of love for each other after 17 yearstogether. Not having the answers and all the uncertainty is so confusing and hard!
Has anyone gone through something similar and came through the other end and found each other again,and been the stronger for it?
Sorry for the long post!