Separation, divorce and so little support

[JuliaHar]

Just the above really. Separated from abusive, cheating husband. Going through divorce and friends, although sympathetic have little to no idea or ask how things are going. Ex doesn’t take children overnight but friends will plan dates, then rearrange to another date at short notice. I will reply that I now can’t make it but not to worry, to go and enjoy themselves. I know that everyone is busy and I understand this but it doesn’t stop the loneliness. I have my children and I’m so content being their mum but adult support has been pretty nil.

Maybe your friends aren't sure if you want to talk about it or not and don't know how/what to ask. My friend is also going through a divorce atm. We aren't super close and I've only known her a year but I don't know how to reach out or if she wants me to. Worried to overstepped the mark or come across as nosy/just wanting to hear gossip. Have offered to help pick up her DC after school and little things like that in case she needs it. But not sure how else to help.

Thanks for that - it will just take time to find a new normal I think.

It must be very hard for you, one day this will all be behind you hopefully.

Maybe join the divorce board and see if there are any posters in your area who fancy meeting for coffee? Join some clubs? Just ideas, I’m pretty lonely sometimes too and would like more friends in general - it’s hard 💐

Definitely tell people you’re feeling lonely and could do with a night out.

Don’t feel guilty for wanting time away from your children to enjoy adult company. Do you have anyone who could look after kids for a few hours while you pop out for a catch up? Or any hobbies you maybe take up?