advice for my mum??

[Aliceee]

Hi all, sorry if I do anything wrong i am quite new here and this is my first time posting (i usually just lurk lmao). Recently i have allowed my mother back into my life and in doing so she is being given the opportunity to know my two children. I have 1 boy aged 11 and one girl aged 5. Me and my mother stopped speaking when i was around 13 as I(very regrettably) got pregnant at 13 with the man i am still with today (I am 23) My mother never supported me following through with my sons pregnancy and we didn’t speak for years. All grudges and judgment of my mother aside, we have been slowly building our relationship back and she is showing an amazing interest in her grandkids. I have told her many times that I am not comfortable with her spending lots of money on them or buying them anything too flashy or tacky. However as my mother is in her 60’s she is struggling with ways to bond with them since she has developing arthritis and cannot move around as much as she would like to. Does anyone have any advice on ideas she could use or family activities we could do together? Thanks, Alice.

You are going to get more interest in your partner than your mother. Key here is how old is your partner? It must of been very hard for your mother to deal with the situation you were in, and possibly hard now. Who looked after you from 13 to adulthood? Your father or in care?

Hi, Me and my partner where the same age and where young and stupid, I don’t regret my son but I do regret thinking i should have him that early.When my mother kicked me out i moved in with my father as he and my mother were no longer together. I do not blame my mother, infact if my daughter had a child that young i would also be distraught, and we have had many conversations while re-kindling our relationship about our feelings and such.

What about baking or arts and crafts? Going to theatre/bowling and nice garden centre going for lunch.

Thank you do much well definitely consider lunches out and the theatre! :)