Suffered horrific coercive cintrol from age 16-21. Emdr helped significantly and am now married to a lovely man.
However, more recently been suffering flashbacks and blame myself for putting up with it.
My abusive ex used to say " because you're weak" a lot. I was weak I guess. I know I was strong to survive but my mum treated me terribly and he saw a weak person he could control. How do i forgive myself ? ( i thoughtI had till now.)