Thought that some of you might find this interesting. My GF and I have been struggling alot. Both of us are from unstable or loveless parents and as such, after an intense wonderful 6 month honeymoon period, things started suffering when we moved in together in late 2022. Over the last year plus since it's been some ups, some down and culminated in lots of mutual mistrust and projection and issues coming up. This is despite both of us growing alot and being in therapy, bodywork, breathwork seperately. I decided to leave a few months ago as she seemed to not care anymore and became critical and distrustful, while I became shut down emotionally, resentful and felt rejected. Three tries again, cancelled couples therapy, a fling in between breaks (her) and we've been trying tentatively again to see how we go and with more awareness, even though arguments are common. Now, 3 days ago, spurred by experiences we've heard of and reading about research, we took mdma together in our bedroom and in the process managed to share, love and mutually accept many things we never felt safe to beforehand about our past and how we really feel. We reaffirmed how strongly we love each other and talked & cuddled for hours and hours after. It's early days but it's like we really see each other for the first time and can love the whole person. I'm unsure if it's wise to do this intense bonding if the other person truly is "toxic" and there has been more attachment than love, but for us and other potentially loving but stuck couples, it's been amazing and made us better people any which way things may go.