My Stepdad (SD) married my mum 28 years ago this year. Two years ago, I found evidence of SD chatting to other women and creating an emotional affair, flirting, etc. I told Mum and the only reason they are still together is that my half-sister lives at home, and SD pays the rent.
Mum lives with me more than she does at her home. She has Bipolar (recent diagnosis), and living with me stabilises her. She is moving in with me within the next year for MANY reasons, but it all started with the cheating.
Anyway, SD recently told HS1 the reason he did the cheating, and it is the most gaslighting, narcissistic bull I have ever heard. He blamed my mum, who is v.sick, like 30 tablets a day, and said that because she wouldn't be intimate with him, he looked elsewhere. I lost it. What man does that? I asked my husband, and even my DH calls SD worthless (explicit words here) and scum.
SD doesn't deserve my mum. I can't wait to find a bigger house and move her in. Then I can tell SD what an awful man he is and that he is a gaslighting narcissist. I just needed to rant about him and what he said.