Hello Ladies!
I am sure I am not alone in this. Back last year in March 2023, my oldest daughter's bio dad (my husband is her step-father) found a stray dog in another state. She begged my husband and I to take in the dog. I reluctantly said yes, and my husband was skeptical that my daughter would take responsibility for the dog, but he gave her a chance anyways. A month or so after we took the dog in, it soon became my full responsibility to care for the dog. I was very disappointed that she didn't want anything to do with the dog because the dog turned out to be too much work. My husband is a truck driver and is only home on the weekends or every other weekend. So, he was limited in what he could do to help me. At first, I was in love with the dog, but the hectic nature of life and how chaotic my household became with the dog became too much for me! I began to dread coming home and caring for the dog. I felt like the dog hijacked my life. The dog was too high energy and needed a lot of training and would have accidents on the floor. Fast forward to September 2023, I told my husband how unhappy I was and that the dog needed to be rehomed. He agreed to it but was against it at first until things started to get worse. He knew the dog was on a waiting list since September to go to a shelter. Well three weeks ago, I got a call from one of the shelters. They said they could take the dog in soon. I gave her up last week, and my husband was on board with the whole thing, at least on the surface. When I told him that I was going to take her in to the shelter that day, he was aware of it. As soon as he called me back that evening and I told him the dog was gone, he basically went into defense mode and said that I must be happy about this. He said would call me later that day to talk further. I didn't hear from him the rest of the week and into the weekend. I texted him to ask when he was coming home, and I never got a response. Almost a week went by until yesterday, I got a response back. He said that he was "emotionally dead", and he said he didn't know how long silent treatment would go on. Now, I am left with feeling ostracized. He hasn't even answered my girls' calls. They are very upset about it too.
Basically, I am trying to see his side of things when he knew this was going to happen and he agreed; even though I knew he was not happy about it. He doesn't want to talk to me and is cutting me off emotionally. I feel this is abusive, and a healthy couple should be able to air their differences.
Has anybody gone through this before? He is in his own bubble and not even wanting to talk about it.
Thanks so much for listening and look forward to hearing from others.