Been friends with a couple for 10+ years. No issues until he had an affair with a woman he worked with. I was there through it all but remained friends with them both because they have decided to work it out. They have three kids under 7 and she is still hurting. It happened during covid. The last couple of times I've gone round they've both tried talking to me about it when one on one which feels incredibly awkward. I feel sorry for her and have lost respect for him. I am much closer with her and my loyalties would be with her should they separate. I'm not really even sure what my question is, I guess I just need to hear about how others have coped with supporting very close friends through similar issues. I have my opinions, that she should leave etc, but she won't because it would break the kids, and I keep my opinion about this to myself as it didn't go down well when I gently suggested that this was an option (she panicked at the thought). Can anyone whose partner had an affair what they needed from their friends when their relationship was in turmoil?