ex won’t do homework with child

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I’m at a loss please help me. My ex and I have a terrible relationship. There was police, a custody battle. He got every other weekend and one day in the middle. Our girl is 5.5 years old. On his weekend he doesn’t do homework with her. I think this is to piss me off but it’s only affecting her. I’ve reminded him and asked nicely. Homework is handed out on Friday and has to be done by Wednesday. He has her Thursday - Monday on his weekend. Monday she has ballet and then that leaves only Tuesday to do homework before it’s due. That’s unfair on our daughter that she has to do all the reading and homework in a day. I’m thinking of going to court again but am afraid it’s gona end up nowhere. He’s a psychotic narcissist and I’m thinking of trying to get through to his friends because I don’t know what to do. It will hopefully shame him that his friends think that he’s only an insta dad, which he is. Anyone have any ideas?

I‘m a teacher and have children who regularly don’t complete homework. Some say they have forgotten or were too busy with different clubs to do it. They don’t get into trouble for it.
With her being so young I would just contact the wchooo and explain that some weekends your dd doesn’t complete the work due to being at her dads. The school will be understanding. She will also be reading in class and doing her spelling at home. You could then prioritise one small piece of homework to do on a Tuesday.
Inwould also highlight to him every weekend that it would take just 10 mins to sit down and read her book with her and see what he says. Sadly you can’t make him do things with her on his weekends.

There's nothing you.can do op. Exh was like this , he hated me for leaving and used the kids to get at me. 'His' time was for fun things , everything else was my job.

My kids no longer see him , they've grown up realising how immature and disrespectful he is.

I don't think there's any point in going back to court , he'll talk his way out of it and also , it's not illegal to not do reading with a child. Ime family court are useless and powerless when there's an abusive exp.

Sorry op , I know it's tough. Stay strong.

Exactlu this. Agree with others that you can't control this. Do the homework on the Tuesday, and the reading can wait til other nights with her. It'll be clear from her reading record that it's only ever you that does it.

Homework at that age has little to no impact on learning outcomes of children, it’s mostly there to appease parents who want it.

just let her teacher know and carry on as you are. It’s not worth the stress and certainly not worth going back to court.

Agree.
Reading at home is important though.
And I imagine OPs resentment is about more than just the homework... but he's probably always going to be a that who does exactly what he fancies doing and not a thing more.

** a twat!

As long as you are reading to her, and she is reading to you then forget the rest. How much homework is a 5yr old getting anyway!

She will learn he's an idiot as she gets older and she needs to do this homework. She's not going to thank him for getting g her detention at seco Mary because he won't allow her to do homework... bit she's so little, don't let the stresses of an idiot spoil your time with her!

At that age I wouldn’t either 🤷‍♀️

With her being so young I would just contact the wchooo

Bless you

Ignore him, you can't make him do it - no court will so it's just a losing battle

Do what you can with her on the Tuesday and tell school that she was at her dads the weekend before and he doesn't do it with her - make sure the school has dads contact details so they can bring this up with him if it ever becomes a problem

She's not even 6, this is not a problem