I need some advice on whether I am being unreasonable.
Background for context. My ex and I separated Nov 2022 because he’d previously been meeting another woman (as a friend) behind my back and lying about it. First in September 2021 when we had a 6 week old newborn, and then again in February 2022. We decided to keep trying to make things work but it was obvious he had feeling for her and the trust was gone so we separated. He then started dating her.
It became obvious he was spending time with her when our daughter was in his care. I have asked to meet her several times over the last year. Not to confront her or anything but to know who my daughter is spending time with. He continually tells me they’re not seeing each other anymore (even so much as to ask if I’d consider sleeping with him casually at some point 🙄) but never mentions when the relationship is back on.
My daughter is 2 and so is starting to talk about his girlfriend. It’s difficult for me because I know so little about her, i wouldn’t even know her if I bumped into her in the street.
Their on again, off again relationship worries me, because my little one could become attached only to lose out if they were to decide to separate fully. And I feel if he’s not communicating when they’re on or off again, I’m going to struggle to guide my little one through her questions and feelings as she gets older and her understanding of relationships grow.
Am I being unreasonable here? I don’t mind him being in a new relationship, and he can obviously spend time with both of them if he chooses, but I’m not sure he’s considered this side of the co parenting and the implications it could have on our little one.