Need advice please- want to leave

[Tulipsandpansies123]

'D' h is shouty and gets annoyed and angry. One example- he told my 11 yr old ds to go to bed at 9pm (inset day tomorrow so no need for early night...)Ds was hungry so I said for him to grab something and then do teeth and bed. Husband erupted at me, saying that I'd undermined him and was shouting at me.
I hadn't undermined him- I just thought Ds should eat if hungry!

This is a typical scenario .

I've had it. With his shouting, with his shallowness and with his ego

If anyone is awake pls

Do you work? Do you own or rent your house? Is he DS's father?

Can you afford a solicitor?

I work nearly full time but v low wage. We have a shared mortgage.

He is his father yes

I can't afford a solicitor

Or do I just keep plodding on? I think it's gone past being able to pretend now tbh

i think you need to at least put some action into place regarding things.

Perhaps you can put a two pronged action into place.

Leave - see a solicitor, have a good nosey and see where all the money is (if you don’t already. Some solicitors will give a free 30 minute consultation. Or citizens advice might help. Look at wikivorce on line.

and

Stay - Try and have a talk with him and explain how you feel. Technically you did ‘undermine’ him, but I would have done the same because a hungry child will never fall asleep.

What you need most is a partner that doesn’t get angry as a first resort. Have the talk when you are both relaxed and calm.**

Perhaps keep a journal for a while.

To think about leaving over this is OTT IMO.

Talk about it with him, couples have arguments like that all the time