Intimidated by guy before I met him

[datingloser]

I’ve planned to go on a date with a guy I've been speaking to online. I don’t know if anyone’s done this before but I decided to google his name just out of curiosity.
His pictures and lots of relevant links came up!. Turns out he’s very well known in investment banking and private equity.

I feel completely out of my depth here. I’m no where near his level when it comes to finances and job security. This guy is probably the wealthiest person I’ve ever spoken to and I feel it’s pointless engaging with him.

Has anyone been in a similar position?

You are totally overthinking this. He clearly is interested in you as a person, and he probably isn't bothered about your finances. Meet him and see how it goes. You've got nothing to lose.

Jesus. Just go on the date.

Yes. I was chatting to a bloke and turns out he owns a chain of businesses, mixes with celebrities and is very wealthy.

I knew I wouldn’t fit into the circles he moved in or feel comfortable in the places he frequents and so decided against meeting.

If he's that wealthy, I doubt your salary and job security matters to him at all.

It's something that middle-income men will reasonably be concerned about, but 100k won't be here or there to someone on this level.

Also forget what you've read online about him because (a) it might seem a bit weird to have done all that research, (b) it might be wrong anyway.

I think this person is unlikely to be interested in what you do at all, but is there more to the whole picture - has he attended a top university, listed lost of other accomplishments, comes from a very different background? At the end of the day it may be that his world and your world are too far apart but why don’t you meet him and decide then? Why all this anxiety before you have event met?

It's just a date. Go. Enjoy. Split the bill.

Just go and act normal, many wealthy people are self made and you may have more in common than you expect. He’s not going to give a crap about your finances so don’t feel you need to make it a discussion point. He’ll be looking for warmth and authenticity and someone who can see past his money. Unless he’s a self important arsehole of course, in which case he’ll want you to notice his money…

Just go. My friend's lovely husband has this CV. He is interviewed quite regularly on TV and in papers.

He got so far because he genuinely loves the work and is very good at it but is self made with an ordinary background and businessy degree. He is kind, unassuming and we met him in a pub. I daresay he has more money than I'll ever see but you'd never know it and it certainly isn't the most interesting thing about him. He's more bothered about discussing shared interests and his rather geeky hobbies.

He could just be a lovely man with a lucrative day job. If he's a flash Harry and that's not for you then just have a drink or two, ask general questions if you feel stuck for chat, make a polite exit and don't accept another date.

Just make sure he’s not a catfish. Many many are! Check on facecheck.id or pimeyes

I dated a barrister, twice, both times he "forgot" his wallet for the third date he suggested a sleepover at his. I cut my losses. He was south African and had a job in TV show too. A great job does not equal generous as I found out.

I have known a friend of mine for over twelve years. We were very poor when we met and both in debts. He's now a celebrity and people recognize him in the street. I do all right.
We're still friends and we still get drunk together regularly, just in better restaurants. We always split the bill too.
Go on a date, you have nothing to lose.

Can I date him?

My brother earns around 750k a year, hi wife has never earned much more than minimum wage.

Oddly enough he's not with her for her earning potential. He's with her because she makes him laugh, because they both love sitting in the freezing sea on a surfboard, because she doesn't take him too seriously, because she's the perfect antidote to the rest of his life.

I wouldn’t be intimated
i would however worry we wouldn’t be a valued match

that said no harm in meeting and having an open mind ? Dating is a way to meet different people and learn a bit ?

Don’t overthink it

I’ve been in same position and initially I did overthink as on top of that my job was nowhere near his level nor were my qualifications. if he really likes you he won’t care about that