So XH and I booked a holiday a few months before we separated. He was organising it for my 40th to go away over my birthday (in April). XH initially said he’d pay for some of the flights etc and we’d both pay for the hotel etc. He’d booked flights there and back (flying out on EasyJet and back with BA). The flight back had some extras added to it to as a birthday present and he sent me a picture of the booking showing it cost €139 (so about £118). He added luggage etc to this booking.
fast forward a few months and we separated (I didn’t have any trust in him - see some of my previous posts). So we called it a day. Sleeping in separate rooms until I can move out. I’m now going on holiday with some friends and as he booked the flights, he said that he would change the names on the tickets. He text the other day to say that the flights out with easyJet have been changed and there was an admin charge of £55. I said that me and my friend are happy to pay for those flights plus the admin charge. This comes to a total of about £250 I guess.
He said that he called BA and asked for the ticket to be changed to name of friend, we had agreed that I’d have this ticket and pay him for the original ticket plus admin charge. They said that they couldn’t change the name on the ticket and he said he got the hump and so he cancelled the whole thing (BA refunded him €22 - £18ish or so pounds). I will have to buy completely new tickets for my friend and I, as the booking for the BA flight has now been cancelled. New tickets would cost approximately £65 each on the same flight. He now wants me to refund him for this cancelled flight and says I owe him £350 in total (£250 for the easyJet flight and £100 for the BA flight, even though he said he would swallow the cost of his ticket as my 40th birthday present). In total I’d then need to pay him £250 for easyJet flight (flight out) + £100 cancelled BA flight + £130 new flights myself.
we live in the same house and he usually gives me £1,050 for rent and bills a month; but initially said he would pay £650 for rent (deducting what I owe ‘him’). I said that I couldn’t afford to pay all of it outright in one go and asked that it be settled in instalments so I am not left short. Thankfully he agreed to pay his usual amount of £1,050. He said he needs to start saving money for when I move out (I also have to as I’m moving to my own property in 6 weeks time). He’s had money issues in the past and has recently finished an IVA.
AIBU to suggest to him that I shouldn’t pay for the cancelled ticket. I would have been happy to buy it off him and pay the extra admin charge but I’m now having to reimburse him for the refunded ticket because BA wouldn’t refund the whole amount. As I am the one moving out; I need to buy myself a bed/sofa/etc as he is keeping most of the things we currently have.
i have spoken to friends and they think he has done it out of spite. I am scared to suggest not paying the refund as I am scared of him as he gets angry and makes me feel bad that I’m leaving him out of pocket.