Do your kids hang out with friends alot

[Chattysusan]

My kids are mostly at home ranging from 11 - 15 the youngest is often complaining that her friends are having play dates and sleep overs which she doesn’t get asked to a lot, this happened a bit with my oldest as well. Both cases the parents have all been quiet friendly so wondering if it’s more a the parents are friends and they organise them or are my kids a bit strange 😂

Do you offer your kids to have sleep overs at your house?

If you invite them they'll probably reciprocate.

At that age, they normally mostly organise them themselves, but younger one may need you to do a bit. Do they have phones or tablets that they use to contact their friends?

And yes, invite them over. If you don’t have the parents numbers, then ask them to ask their friends over for a certain date or say you’ll take them to the cinema, bowling, whatever and you can drive them there. That said, I wouldn’t let my dc go for a sleepover somewhere where I didn’t know the parents and where they weren’t regularly going over to play already for quite a long time. But you can at least start with inviting over after school or on weekends and go from there.

Oh no I’m not saying I want them to go but more is everyone else doing it heaps like it’s the thing to do? Did I miss the memo? My older 2 organise things themselves now but even saying that they seem to prefer to be home more.

I actually hate sleepovers, you just never really know who you are trusting them with

Could be a couple of reasons. You get asked and then reciprocation is expected, so if that doesn't happen, you can expect to be asked less. Also, it could be the parents who are doing it in turns when they go out - date nights etc.