ChrisMcCleanInvincibilityStatue ·
27/01/2024 22:43
I've been separated from my ex husband almost 2 years now. We met in 2007 and have 4 children together. If I was to write absolutely everything that happened, then anyone who reads this would need thumb replacements from all the scrolling they would do ðŸ«
It wasn't until the final year or two before I threw him out that things went really bad. I had found his profile on several adult websites looking for NSA fun. One website showed he joined the beginning of January 2017. A month before our youngest was born. He was still on this website up until I threw him out. As his last seen online (at the time) was recent. This being the deciding factor for throwing him out. He had even put an ad on our local areas online dating page, again looking for NSA fun. Each time he denied this was him, with various excuses.
I also had a court letter come (for him) unexpectedly in the post. When he had taken himself away (behind my back) on a business course. I've seen the business papers but I know that wasn't the only thing he was doing whilst there. As the court letters say he was arrested for possession of cocaine and assault. In the whole 15 years of being with him. I never knew or would have guessed he touched drugs. It was just something else he kept from me.
When I threw him out he was massively in debt and was put into temporary accommodation. He asks now and then to come over and see the kids. However he has no real interest in them. He never offers to take them anywhere, or even asks how they are. I feel its more so he can come over and be nosey.
He has threatened me with several things such as if I go to child maintenance then he will go self employed. I'm currently receiving £25 per child per month from him. This is all what he can allegedly afford. I know it's more than what some women receive but it's not much when you take into account everything I have to pay for - birthdays, Christmases, school clubs/trips etc.
I'm really struggling to process how someone I thought the world of could and can be so cold hearted. He literally led a double life whilst with us, and doesn't give a s**t about the kids without them. There are men and women who would give anything to see their kids. He has the opportunity but would rather just do his own thing. I know I'm not a crap parent because I see how much i do. But there are times when the kids needs things albeit for school or something, and I'm struggling to make sure they have them. Whilst their dad who should be helping to support them is most likely living the life of Riley. I go without so much to ensure my children have a decent life.
I've spoken to his mum several times, about how hard it's for me financially. That I offer to let him see the kids, but I'm threatened with silly things such as him going self employed. All she ever says is that I should let him see the kids and that's about it.
I'm just frustrated that everything is on my shoulders physically and financially because one of us doesn't want to be a parent.