Guy just took overdose [Content warning: mentions suicide]

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Hi I have previously asked for advice I ended it with a guy about a month ago after a 5 month relationship. I really liked him but I found out he had previously back habit with coke. I suspected he was still on it, we had not much in common. I ended it kindly. He drank him self stupid and threaten to kill him self.

My dad committed suicide he knew it's a massive trigger. My dad asked me to go for a walk I didn't and then he hung him self. I was 8. 37 now.

He said can we stay friends so I said I can but he kept saying my reasons for ending it were BS.

Today i asked him to leave me alone as friendship wasn't working. He sent me a picture a couple of hours later of a pile of tablets and said he had took 70. I rang my friend who knows him and police. I froze in fear. I rang him he said he was throwing up blood and I should come and look after him.

My friend went around and police there with ambulance. He is with his family now and went to hospital.

Please someone help I don't even want to see him ever again I'm so angry but I'm terrified he kills him self, I have been in a abusive relationship in past and took me long time to recover. I ended it because I could see red flags but look now what do I do. I'm shaking with worry and anger

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just block him, if he contacts you tell him clearly not to, in writing, and if he contacts you again report him to the police.

He is not your responsibility.

He's very ill OP and now his family know and will be able to get him help, stable functional people do not behave like that. Your dad was also obviously very unwell. You cannot control other people's mental health and you cannot fix or be responsible for them. He is trying to control you, knowing that this is something that will deeply affect you, and that is unforgiveable. You need to have nothing further to do with him and get yourself lots of support.

Whatever happens to him is NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

He is not your problem. He's trying to terrify you into becoming his prisoner and if, frankly, the cost to him of your escaping this abuser is that he decides to end his own life, that's his problem, not yours.

You notice, of course, that he made a point of telling you and ordering you to go to him. He tried to force the responsibility on you by terror when it was never yours in the first place and is still trying now.

Block him/ Block him. BLOCK HIM. And never, ever respond, react or think for a moment that you have the slightest responsibility towards this abuser.

I know I'm utterly terrified he doesn't it again once I don't respond to him

Not your problem. Let go. He is not your responsibility at all

All the best advice when someone close to you is threatening suicide and saying it's your fault is to phone 999 and report all the details, address, what he has taken and so on. The professionals will take over and deal with the situation, that's what they're there for.
You're absolutely doing the right thing and any further action he may take is entirely up to him.

Block him!!!!

He can't send you pathetic pictures of the drip in his arm if you block him. And he's in hospital, by the sound of it. They can deal with him.

Stop making excuses and just block him. You're just winding yourself up into a completely unnecessary state of terror. Unless you are enjoying the drama and feeding off it, just stop with it. You keep posting, 'please someone help' but ignoring the fact that every single poster has told you to block him.

For his sake if not yours.

I think you should call the non emergency police line and tell them what’s happening. I suspect that they’ll be able to advise or signpost you to help. This won’t be the first time a dickhead has acted like this.

I know I'm utterly terrified he doesn't it again once I don't respond to him

Stop allowing this prick access to you op. Step away from all this drama.

Block him. He’s responsible for his own actions.