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He eats EVERYTHING

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ThePigsGF · 20/03/2008 12:08

My partner moved in with us 3 months ago and I'm already at the point where I want to move back out again.

It sounds trivial but its so annoying, he just eats everything in the house. He was quite greedy before he moved in but as soon as he moved in I realised the extent of it.

For instance I did the weeks shopping on Tuesday. Got enough in to last a normal family for a week. When DP got in from work he flew to the kitchen to see what I had bought and promptly opened up a packet of peppered beef slices and used the entire packet in two bread rolls straight away.

I bought four easter eggs for the kids and he's eaten them all.

If I buy a multipacket of crisps he will eat the entire packet instantly (litrally sit there on a night and eat 6 packets of crisps on after another).

Chocolate biscuits go within the hour.

I bought a bag of apples for the kids packed lunch boxes and DP came home from work and ate the entire bag (about 7 apples) in one night.

I really flipped today because I bought some BAKING CHOCOLATE so the kids can make some easter buns tomorow. I actually told him to leave it alone as a) it was BAKING CHOCOLATE and b) I'd bought it specifically for the kids. He muttered something about me making him out to be a pig. I went out to a friends house to pick up some party invitations and when I got back in an hour later he was half way through his 2nd bar of BAKING chocolate I went mad and called him a greedy pig and he shouted at me that I was a food nazi and he'd "replace the bleeding chocolate if its that important". I feel like crying. I know it sounds petty but I'm really starting the resent him. The kids keep coming home from school kicking off that there is nothing in for them to snack on, even their easter eggs have gone.

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motherinferior · 20/03/2008 12:12

Oh no! He sounds awful. And really quite weird about food too.

Anna8888 · 20/03/2008 12:14

He has an eating disorder.

This will be complicated

Brangelina · 20/03/2008 12:16

OMG, is he bulimic?

A total lack of respect for others imo, eating the easter eggs is taking the p. What does he contribute shopping wise?

Buda · 20/03/2008 12:17

Don't envy you sorting this one out.

Is it mainly stuff you have bought for your DCs?

motherinferior · 20/03/2008 12:17

Yes, I thought 'eating disorder' too.

Anna8888 · 20/03/2008 12:24

Such a complete and total lack of self-control in front of food (even food that is not his and that he has no right to eat) is clearly an eating disorder.

Does he have self-discipline issues in other areas of his life?

Thefearlessfreak · 20/03/2008 12:30

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 20/03/2008 13:04

I would also think an eating disorder is present along with deeply seated emotional problems.

What exactly do you know about him in terms of his background?.

I would ask him to leave; it will do you and your children no favours at all to be around this man in the longer term. He is showing you all no respect or consideration.

Lomond · 20/03/2008 13:13

This does not sound trivial at all to me. I agree it does sound like there could be an eating disorder there. However my dp can be a bit like this though not quite to the same extent. He wold never eat stuff that is obviously for the kids though.

I don't know what the answer is. How can you tell if he actually has an eating disorder or is just a greedy pig?
Does he worry about his weight or disappear to the loo a lot?

Lomond · 20/03/2008 13:13

would, sorry

BearMama · 20/03/2008 13:17

Its not a trivial issue that he eats everything with no consideration for anyone else. I'm not surprised you snapped.

In your shoes I would be reduced to shopping with the kids and handing them treats there and then (not remotely practical I know)

He def has a problem. Is he overweight? (Thinking thyroid probs) Does he ever pay for shopping? Its a PITA but it wouldnt be so bad if he replaced the things he eats - or paid for them himself in the first place!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 20/03/2008 13:22

Ishooos.

Probably not grounds for getting rid yet (assuming that he's a good all round guy apart from the food thing) but I do think you need to have a serious talk with him. If he's leaving your kids with nothing to eat, and even eating their easter eggs, he obviously has a bit problem and needs to see a doctor.

Is he contributing towards the food budget?

hecate · 20/03/2008 13:39

Buy in daily. I know it's a pain but it is doable.
Don't buy sweet stuff or snackables?
Lock on one of the cupboards, to keep all the stuff you need him to stay away from?
Make him pay more for it and he can eat what he wants?
If he really can't control himself and he gets angry when challenged, then he def has a problem and if you could get him to seek help, so much the better.
Is he fat?

ElaineCA · 20/03/2008 13:41

I had a boyfriend like this. I couldn't stand it, quite apart from anything else it made me feel quite ill being around him when he ate. We would go out for a Chinese with friends and he would just be unpleasant and greedy and have far more than his fair share. I finished with him as I couldn't cope with his greed and his inability to see that it wasn't a healthy trait to stuff himself to other's detriment. I would be inclined to ask him to leave your home. His disregard for you and your children is unpleasant and disrespectful and I wonder if it might lead to other things. I think it is maybe true about it being an eating disorder but you need to look after number 1 (and more importantly your LO's) first.

ChocolateRockingHorse · 20/03/2008 13:41

Is he very overweight?

It sounds like a medical issue to me to be honest, if not a psychological one as well.

WallOfSilence · 20/03/2008 13:43

Is he obese?

macdoodle · 20/03/2008 14:03

he ate their easter eggs twunt

jalopy · 20/03/2008 17:45

Dropdeadfred · 20/03/2008 17:48

does he pay for any food?

ALMummy · 20/03/2008 18:32

Like your nickname by the way OP .

My DH drinks 2 litres of Orange Juice in two days and he too will eat his way through an entire 6 pack of crisps but he would never eat anything that was meant for the kids.

I think too that your DP has an eating disorder of some sort but I thought that most people if they have one are quite secretive about it and he seems very open about what he eats. Difficult one this.

allgonebellyup · 20/03/2008 18:45

oh my god, and it was bought with all your money???!!!!
my dh used to do this with the food.
we are now divorcing.

lilacclaire · 20/03/2008 20:46

I had an EX like this, it really made me lose respect for him and it also pissed me off no end, especially as i was on a limited budget at the time and my stuff for work lunches all week would be half eaten by the time I got to them.
He was also extremely tight, despite earning the same as me (he lived with his parents, I owned my own house).
To be honest if its bugging you this much now I would seriously call it a day.

3NAB · 20/03/2008 20:48

Inconsiderate

Greedy or

Prada-Willi syndrome.

angiebaby78 · 20/03/2008 20:52

Get rid !! Your poor children no easter eggs its terrible ( although dd2 cream egg looking rather tasty - she will make too much mess !!) No seriously its really soul destroying when people just take without asking , and then go all defensive. Really not a good start to the relationship . Good luck. xxx

Lauriefairycake · 20/03/2008 21:01

I haven't seen if you've posted that you have a problem because you are paying for all this or not?

If it's that then sympathies as he needs to contribute too.

Also if you're saving stuff and you actually say you are then of course he shouldn't touch it.

My husband also eats plenty (would have no problem with eating the above) however he is very tall and very skinny and needs to eat a lot for his job and exercise so i wouldn't necessarily be thinking the actual amount signifies an eating disorder.

My husband also used to eat all the snacky food first in the house as when he lived at home it was a bit of a fight to get your fair share of the snacky food (a house with 4 boys) but he adjusted and now realises that noone is going to steal it

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