Do I have anything to worry about?...

[TishaMelissa]

Ex has supervised contact only...
Cafcass are looking to progress it slowly..

He's submitted a statement asking for contact leading from stepped contact to shared care..believing this to be in our DDs best interests... she's always been with me I've always been primary carer ...

Do I have anything to worry about?

Hes had very serious findings made against him regarding domestic and child abuse.

I’d say no nothing to worry about especially if findings of domestic / abuse

God, it worrys me so much.

He doesn't believe it's in your daughters best interests. He just wants to further scare, bully and upset you.

I would be fighting to cancel out even his supervised access tbh. Abusers do not belong around children. Let alone child abusers.

If carcass are aware of these things then why are they looking to progress anything?

Have you had any court orders? Like is the supervised contact court ordered?

Weve only ever had an order for supervised contact. But at the last hearing cafcass suggested progression. I said community contact with third party. He's rejected every person I've put forward for third party and wants to control everything... he's willingly given up extra time with DD because he doesn't want my maternal family member supervising yet made me out to be frustrating his contact.

His position is he wants contact to progress to shared care as he feels its in DDs interests.

Stick to your guns and highlight your concerns. Make sure cafcass have all evidence snd speak to the child.
If cafcass fail you. Ask social services to do an assessment on dad and take it back to court. This isnt the end. Try not to worry x

I'm just worried about looking unreasonable.

You won't look unreasonable if you're facilitating contact by suggesting a family member. Be very clear about how this will look in reality (as in which regular times would be offered/where would contact be?). Are there any family members his side who you would trust to supervise the contact, that you could suggest?

Being seen to be facilitating contact will be viewed positively. But he will look unreasonable if he refuses it.

Why are cafcass looking to progress? What work has he done? Who has re assessed his risk and what was the outcome? How can they be confident a progression in contact is safe and in your child's best interest?
If there are findings of DA then I assume you are entitled to legal aid. I would honestly speak to your solicitor and get clear answers for the above. In relation to shared care I don't see why that would be agreed unless it was in your child's best interests and in line with their wishes.

I've put forward maternal family member that DD sees every week. She asked for them.
He's put forward mates DD has never met.

DD is only 5 and her wishes were she likes living with mummy and mummy makes her happiest but she likes going to the contact centre. She told cafcass this