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Needhelp4 · 26/01/2024 14:22

Sorry, this is incredibly vague.
Social services are involved in my life as H got them involved after I had a breakdown. Anyhow, H fed them loads of lies such as me being a substance abuser (not true) and has convinced that that I may have certain undiagnosed psychiatric disorders (I am absolutely certain this is not the case). He is incredibly charming and convincing to the outside world and is one of those who can sell snow to the Eskimos. I have to follow a plan for an assessment period by SS for a while whilst he is in charge of things at home. He is absolutely vile and holds the SS plan over me and threatens to call SS if I do not follow his orders (I am not allowed to take a bath for example and not allowed to use my phone after 7 pm to speak to friends but there are lots of other examples). This kind of behaviour was there before the SS involvement but stepped up hugely. Social services are on his side, there is no point speaking to them. I have been instructed by SS to see the GP to discuss a potential referral to psychiatry.

I have an GP appointment next week and just wondered how honest I can be with the GP. I am absolutely certain there is nothing to diagnose (the breakdown was the result of an intense level of stress for a prolonged time and the total absence of support from anyone - but I know it shouldn't happen again). I do not abuse any substances. I believe I am to some extend the victim of coercive control. Can I open up to the GP as to what is really happening at home or will they disclose it to SS? I am just so scared I will be labelled as vindictive and uncooperative if I discuss my situation.

Also, is there anything else I should or shouldn't do in the meantime? I plan to follow the SS plan to a T and fully engage with them.

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notjustthe · 26/01/2024 14:24

have you posted about your husband and SS before?

you live together don’t you?

Mischance · 26/01/2024 14:25

I suggest you google "Citizens' Advocacy" - they provide advocates for people in need of someone by their side to deal with all sorts of situations. Find your local one and email them your post on here and say you need some help.

Needhelp4 · 26/01/2024 14:25

@notjustthe no, this is my first post.

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Needhelp4 · 26/01/2024 14:26

@Mischance thanks. I will have a look.

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