Making new friends

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Where do you make new friends who are nice? I have some lovely friends but they don't go out much due to having families, mortgages to pay or health issues which I understand.

My partner set up a Facebook social group which was successful. Myself and others help run it. He has not been for a while due to health issues. He and myself feel pushed out as the group has got too cliquey and numbers have dwindled because of this.

He went to an event and was snapped at by a woman who made he feel unwelcome because he has not been regularly and she said they don't want new people attending.

Another woman recently joined the group and hosted an event. She promised to put another event on. People were commenting on the group for over a week which she ignored. As soon as I set the event up for them she pops up saying she has set an event up now for a few weeks. It seems as though she does not want to be upstaged. I probably would not have hosted the event but the members were quite clearly lonely and she was ignoring them.

I don't know where to start looking to meet nice people. The irony can't even make new friends at the social group we run.

Hi what age group op. I see people on threads here amazing friends. Im 50s. People are v flaky now. I did meet a friend this week. Walking group fizzled out after a month. So that was waste of my time!! I meet few school mams thats it

Honestly? Don't bother. Most people are twats these days in my experience. Just try and learn to enjoy your own company and if you naturally meet people then great. If not, fuck it

I agree greenwalls it got me upset about it. I feel I cant be assed with it all now!!

As its your group, would the admins be able to send out a message to stamp out unfriendly behavior.

Something along the lines of "hi all, we set up this group because we wanted to create a friendly community (based on whatever hobby/thing the group is focused on). Recently several members have raised concerns that the group is no longer the friendly and welcoming environment we had hoped for - and in fact one of the founders experienced this attitude at the last meeting he attended when one of the more recent members snapped at him that "they don't want newer people attending".
We as admins of this group are keen to make this group a happy and sociable place and it was never our intention to limit numbers."

Im sure that someone else will be able to word it better. But its your group, so take control of it and don't let others ruin it.

Be prepared for lots of people to chime in, bun fighting may ensue, but rise above it.

@GreenWallsAllFours you sound like the type of person I'd want to be friends with

I’ve met people at sports groups, interest groups sidelines of kids games. But the friendships are based around the interests so are not forever but I’ve been happy to just keep taking up new stuff as the years go by so that s fine.

What sort of social group though? I have joined a local social chat but it appears it’s centred round meeting up for coffee and a chat or evening drinks. I have had better luck joining actual interest groups or volunteering for something I believe in.

I am 40 now but did not expect my social life to dwindle at this age!**

@AngryMoan My partner is the main admin but cannot attend due to health issues. I think he is too afraid to stand up to people. Just shocked he would let people destroy a group he set up from scratch which has thousands of members. Saying that having health issues he is probably not in the mood to speak up.

@KalamazooZoo The events are usually drinks, meals and quizzes. We did a walk a while back and the people were a lot friendlier but have not come back since as there have been no walks. The drinks, meals and quizzes people are very cliquey.

Yes the pub quiz in my daughters sport is clickety click to be fair some are neighbours so know each other well. I just do things myself now its just less hassle.