Work crush

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I have a work crush. Can’t tell anyone. Have a DP etc. just need to wait for it to pass. Can’t concentrate on work.

Just needed to get it out. Anyone in a similar position, feel free to join in.

Make a list of all the flaws and icks then read it every time you swoon over them

I have a work crush too.

But I work from home...

It's my wife.

Fairly certain it's not reciprocated! :)

I should do that. I’m kind of leaning into it and slightly enjoying the distraction and the fantasy I guess

Every work crush I’ve had can be summed up by the phrase “he’s only office hot”.

You’ll definitely get over it, try not to worry.

I had a work crush, lasted 20 years (sorry not helpful) 😬

Is he married? If so leave well alone. If not, it might be mutual see how it goes. I met my OH at work it was instant the moment I saw him I knew it would mean trouble so I kept my distance but he felt the same and 2 years later we got together.

That’s really sweet 😂😂

Oh yeah sure, I mean not to worry about OPs partner. So disrespectful

My work crush became my husband...

I am not saying up sticks and the grass is greener etc but you crushing on another man is telling you that there's a bigger problem here, so maybe focus on what that is or working out whay the underlying issue here is cause I promise you there is one.

Yep

It's been 3 years. Turns out it was reciprocal (he told me at a social event), but also both long term married, children etc so we left it alone . We don't need to see each other very often any more, but I look forward to the occasions when we do more than I ought.

I've got a work crush too, been over 2 years!

He's divorced, I'm separated.

He's just handed in his notice, I'm devastated. I can't say anything at work as I'm technically his boss.

Yep! I have a really big one and can't tell anyone because I have a DP also😂 it's all I can think about sometimes. How do you know if it's more than a crush?!

Girls…please remember these work crushes are fun and all, but take it from a wife of an incredibly hot man who no doubt has loads of work crushes. His work persona is NOT his real persona…my husband turns on the charm at work, he’s his best self (I hear his work meetings when wfh). As soon as he logs off he becomes the normal guy who’s not all that. I often think about this…I bet loads of work colleagues fancy him and then I think…you’re welcome to him 😂 See how long you can put up with the real twat!
I probably need to revaluate my marriage 😂

Sorry I hadn’t read the OP properly. Get over your crush or leave your DP - there you go, sorted.

I had one. It was mutual. Nothing ever happened because I’m married and he was with a long term partner. And he was my boss. He made me feel really good and we got on great but I didn’t think about him much once he left. Epitome of ‘office hot’ as someone wise said up thread x

This was really helpful. You are probably right, we rarely know anyone at work.

You’re welcome @BusinessGrowth !

Never because nobody can beat my hubby who I adore

I had a crush, felt all consuming. Eventually when single I pursued it. The reality did not live up to the fantasy! Its good that you recognise it's just a crush. It's hard to push the feelings to one side, but you have to. I agree with focusing on any imperfection to keep you grounded in reality. It's not worth it, take it from me x

It's a work crush. It brightens up the day, and that is the end of it. Don't let reality spoil it by doing anything about it.

I have a work crush and a post about it! We are both divorced/single and I want to find out if it is mutual but not wanting to ruin my job if it is not. Any advice from those of you who married your office crush?

I wonder where some of the PP work to see hot men at work. I work in a male industry and I have to say that the ones that work with me are fairly standard and not hot at all. 😁
Now to the point of the thread, don't feed the crush. It is just an idea on your head, bring it down to earth, he is just a normal man. In a previous post some people mentioned to imagining them picking their noses or something that will stop the imagination going on.

Just don't feed it.