Leaving Domestic abuse relationship

[Carol43]

I’m getting ready to leave my husband. We seem to be going round in circles where he can have periods where he can be lovely and other times belittles me, has been physical etc.
Anyway I got some financial advice today and I would be left with 500 pounds a month after all bills were paid. I have 3 children.
Im so scared, he’s always been in charge of the finances. I’m worried that’s not going to be enough.
Im also scared that I’m the one breaking the family up the boys adore their dad. One son in particular is being verbally abusive towards me which has pushed me in to leaving.
I just need someone to tell me it’ll be alright. Thanks for reading

Have you spoken with Women's Aid? Planned your housing? I guess you'd have to look at how much you would be spending on them per month. I'm not a mum I'm afraid but someone else on here might be able to help you better.

You will be OK I promise I left a 17 year verbally/ mentally/ physical abusive relationship. with 5 children it was my oldest girl. at 13 that was getting abusive to me because she seen her dad do it. So she thought it was OK I won't lie. It will be hard but it's the best thing you can do to protect yourself and your children

It will be okay - you'll soon get used to handling the finances and it sounds like you know you can cover all the essential bills which is great. You deserve to be treated with respect and that's what you're teaching your boys

You will be ok. actually, you will find that life will be much easier.

You will have one less person to clean up after, cook for and worry over.
The money will always be a worry but you will somehow manage. The dad will have to contribute to the Dc upkeep?

I left my ex as he too was abusive. My then 12 year old son was starting to repeat ex behavior and that for me was like a window into my sons future if I did not leave.

Finances were tight but our little family was calmer, more harmonious and caring. It was hard at times, lonely but also amazing.