I know I'm technically being unreasonable here as it's a free country and he can do what he likes, but this is giving me the massive ick. Do people think my feelings are being unreasonable or reasonable I guess I'm asking?
For context, I'm 33, been divorced 5 years (we were together 9), but I've been with my current partner for 4 years. The divorce was amicable, we'd simply grown apart. We were 'friendly' for the initial 6 months whilst we were sorting our finances and selling the house etc, but that just fizzled and we haven't spoken since. We didn't share mutual friends/have kids and he wasn't overly close with my family so the separation was smooth sailing. My partner & I bought a house in a new town together away from both of our exes in 2022 and we've been very happy.
However, in December my Dad & brother were in the local bar to my partner & I, as we quite often all meet up there. This is somewhere I'd say we go to multiple times a month, know the owners well etc. It's quite a small venue, and not really the sort of place you would travel far afield for particularly., but we love it. On this occasion my ex husband happened to be there too, and the chilled type of person he is, kind of overstayed his welcome a tad, and sat down with my dad & brother for a good few hours. My Dad told me after as he felt rather weird about the whole thing (my Dad isn't the sort of person who can deal with confrontation and felt too awkward to ask him to leave). Dad said he was asking a few questions about me, how he was happy for me and it made him feel better that I was happy. I must admit this annoyed me as I do not require any kind of validation from him whatsoever. I guess he always thought me of kind of feeble sometimes, so this is where I got a bit pissed off, it's almost like he thought I wouldn't be ok without him.
Anyways, since then he has appeared back at the bar again this month! The only reason I know this is because the owner of the place told me. He was on his own apparently one evening drinking for a few hours. Now, this bar is not anywhere near where he lives, we are talking 2 separate bus rides as he so kindly pointed out to my brother as he was never able to only have 1 drink and would never drive anywhere...
I'm not sure why but this has really pissed me off. Out of all the bars in this world, why has he been at my local place twice now in as many months. I go there quite frequently as I've said and I really do not want to bump into him, especially with my current partner as the whole interaction is just weird and uncomfortable to me... I have no idea if I should say anything to him and ask politely for him to go somewhere else, but I know I can't really...any advice gratefully received!