I’m so sad. Yesterday I was in police custody for 11 hours after my husband made a malicious allegation against me. He got out the car after shouting so loud for 10 mins it could’ve damaged my eardrums. All abusive and hateful evil stuff, telling my I had miscarriages on purpose, if I can’t give him a baby he will find another woman who can, telling me he’s not going to look after my bastard daughter all his life (my daughter has autism) screaming at me telling me I destroyed his life by marrying him and that he didn’t expect this life, he is Indian so he said I only wanted an “Indian slave” … he was screaming saying he left his parents in his home country for me and if something happens to them it’s my fault, telling me my family hate me and I have no friends - it went on and on and on …
apparently he called the police after I let him out at the side of the road. He made it sound like he was terrified I was trying to find him in my car and run him over. He was running about erratically whenever he saw a car that looked like mine. Apparently the police picked him up and took him to work. He has a pre-existing leg injury and said I damaged his knee (ABH) and slapped him. All I did was stop the car and begged him to leave me alone and stop shouting at me. I didn’t touch him. I drove home, got my daughter and took her to school, drove home again and was in floods of tears. I heard banging on my doors and windows - it was violent banging. It was the police. Neighbours later said that they were about to take the door down.
I had riot vans and police cars outside my house and 8 male cops came in and arrested me as if I was a terrorist and danger to the public. Had I been in the shower they’d have just arrested me naked. I wasn’t allowed to put proper clothes on. That was it. In front of neighbours I was ushered into a riot van - terrified and shaking (but compliant - I didn’t resist, but I was distressed) I told the police that I was being abused !
He didn’t provide an official statement … I was eventually let out after my police interview with “no further action” - it caused distress to my family and kids. I missed my job interview. I was having anxiety attacks in the police cell and my heart was pounding. Eventually, 5 hours later I was told I could have a book to read so I asked for a Bible. I read many passages of the Bible and prayed and cried.
I will never get over this. I was already suffering major depressive disorder and PTSD before he did this to me …. And now I’m sat here on my own and need to talk to someone. I feel so betrayed by the one man I should’ve been able to trust with all my heart. I’m broken. Utterly broken he did this to me. My husband actually had be arrested for a very serious offence - one that could’ve sent me to prison and one that caused multiple officers to “take me down” - as if I was wielding some kind of weapon or something. Why did he do this to me? He hates me. He really really hates me.