Two years ago my Grandad was diagnosed with terminal lung and bone cancer. They gave him two years to live, He passed away a year ago and it was horrific. Everything seemed to go wrong, He was released from hospital and sent home, He died the next day and it took them 19 hours to send a doctor to certify him dead, We all sat with him until they arrived.
Prior to dying he should have had people coming out to give him pain relief and nobody came, they just never showed up despite us repeatedly calling and them just missing appointments etc (will never forgive them for that) so he passed away in so much pain, He suffered terribly. Two months after he died two nurses showed up to my nans house saying they were there to see how my Grandad was getting on. A week after that someone else showed up to drop off some medical equipment for him.
They then got his name and date of death wrong at his funeral and even got it wrong on his box of ashes when we got them back, They gave him two autopsies that he never wanted as they classed his death as suspicious because he died at home after being released from the hospital, It was all a nightmare. They called three times with a different cause of death, so I had to call my mum to tell her how he died, then they called back and changed it, and so on..
Two years on I just found out yesterday that my nan has been diagnosed with the exact same thing, Lung and bone cancer but instead of the two years they gave my Grandad they have said she has months if that. They are sending her home today to pass away basically, She would like to die at home if at all possible.
I don't want her to suffer like my Grandad did. How do we make sure everything goes right this time? as in people coming out to give her pain relief etc?