Name calling

[maivocsa23]

How do you all feel about name calling? Does it bother you when things are said out of anger?

Me and my other half have a 10 month daughter together, I have a dog which has been with me before my other half and of course my dog is with me now.
I understand we will both have different viewpoints.

I have had my dog for 8 years been with my other half over two years, my dog is very well trained, we was in the pub the other day having lunch, my dog was laying down quietly under the table, I said to my other half that he is tied underneath the table.

My other half then came out with you shouldn't tie your dog to a table, I responded with 'his alright he is just laying there' (which I understand what he means as some dogs can react and pull where potentially can cause chaos, ) then that seemed to trigger him saying how I never listen to him I always undermine him, I tried to explain we are not always going to agree and that's fine.

My other other then just went on and on how I disrespect him, went out for a cigarette and came back in, then my dog was near his side, and he just shouted 'move your dog' I responded with talk to me with respect and then he swore and said move your f** dog and then said scumbag, I said 'what did you say' he was like don't talk to me I'm trying to enjoy my good and I meant your dog scumbag not the owner (me) a scumbag. This was all because I politely said my dog was fine underneath.

We then left and walked down the road, then he started shouting at me in public how I am embarrassing and how I shouldnt take up the pavement with me and my dog and how I should keep to the left either in front or behind, talking to me like I am 5!

He gets on with my dog fine usually, so I don't know what was bothering him so much, this is a guy who tells me how I should consider his and other people's feelings, yet he will just piss anywhere he gets a chance because apparently he can't hold his bladder that long and can't wait 5 mins just to go to the toilet in a pub:public toilet, so he will just pee in public down side of road.

Your right and when I have tried explaining I want to end things have space, he just turns it around and says I'm the immature one and how I never try and bases it around he has had more relationships than me so I'm inexperienced and I don't know how to work on things, but he needs to understand he is the issue.

This relationship already has trust/jealousy issues, on top of not understanding one another and communication breakdown whenever we try and speak about an issue it always blows up and he cannot see why I want to leave x

I just feel so drained all the time at the moment I look after our kid 24/7 he comes on the weekend and still does as he pleases, I bf so I know he can't help with that, then instead of being there for each other we seem to add to each others stress and problems, he leaves he gets his space and escape I never stop being a mum, he does not realise how demanding it is and he complains about not giving him enough affection, how can I when I do everything and he just brings me down, I get he may feel rejection but I've told him it's because I'm tired all the time and the last thing I want is to be intimate so I know from his side he is feeling sad too. X

You were still in the honeymoon period when you became pregnant.
No judgement, I did the same.
Unfortunately, this is the real person slipping through.
This is who he is.
Nasty.

He’s obviously trying to play mind games. My abusive ex blamed me for not having as much relationship experience as him thus I was always in the wrong. Actually it meant he couldn’t hold a relationship down and I could!

wait until he isn’t there. Text him telling him that after the incident at the pub it’s bought into focus how incompatible you are and how that wa behaviour your daughter shouldn’t see. That the relationship is over and to contact you via email to arrange seeing his daughter. Then block him on your phone and social media.

put in a CMS claim and await an email. ONLY email regarding a schedule for him to see your daughter, don’t be drawn into email arguments etc etc. it’s not his house so change the locks if he has a key and don’t open the door if he turns up.