Wish I could stop these thoughts and feeling like this.

[Owlgirl1987]

I have posted previously before that my husband had an affair and it all come.our last year, we have decided together.

Why do I still question if I am good enough ? Why do I compare myself to her ? Why do I feel like was he better and happier with her.
I feel like I am killing myself with all these thoughts.
I dont know what to do.

How affectionate are your partners ?

Leave him before he does it again.

What makes you say he will do it again ?
We are doing marriage counselling and he has paid for a family holiday for us. Does this show he would do it again ?

You will be forever second guessing & comparing. Walk away from him. In the long run you will be happier. He showed you what he is. Believe him.

He may or might not do it again. He broke your trust and he smashed your self esteem to pieces. He's damaged you massively with the lies and the hurt it's normal to feel what your feeling now.. you need to express all this to him and let him see the damage he's caused. Tell and ask your marriage counseller too

I stayed after finding out about online cheating 10 years ago - now I wish I’d found the strength to leave then (was pregnant at the time)

Im currently looking into divorce but quite honestly I wish I hadn’t wasted another 10 years on him. It made me nearly have a nervous breakdown, I’ve never trusted him since and that really damages your MH.

I remember your previous posts. Just leave him. You know deep down it’s over.

then you can stop second guessing everything he does and hoping that every tiny thing means he loves you and won’t cheat. It doesn’t. Your peace of mind is worth more than clinging onto a man who has zero respect for you. Find some strength.

Oh OP is this really how you want to live? These feelings probably won't ever go away even if they may get smaller and easier to live with. How long have you been married and how did you discover the affair?

I just left my fiance after discovering his emotional affair. Couldn't cope with the self doubt and suspicion. I'd also lost all my attraction to him as well as my trust so I knew it wasn't going to last. Turned out he was still in contact with her anyway even when he'd told me he wasn't so it was the right decision!

Hope you can make the decision that's right for you. You deserve to be happy x