I’m not 100% sure but I’ve just noticed some unpleasant things and they don’t sit well with me. At the same time I don’t see him and his partner that often so I could be totally wrong here. I didn’t quite like her initially and I when I first noticed him acting a bit dickish I was “pleased” even though there was no real justification for it. But it’s happened a few times but and it made me think twice.
Initially he cut her off when we were all talking or he would sometimes talk for her I guess, last time now when we met her literally told her to “shut up”, and it was super uncomfortable for all of us. If he said this to me I’d be livid and give him an earful but she didn’t and just stayed quiet, and that was the moment that made me pause. My problem is that I really love my father even though he isn’t perfect, but I also know that my BF would never speak to me like this and that it just seemed so wrong. My BF noticed it too and commented on it but I have avoided the topic because I’m somehow feeling ashamed. I’m not sure if there is a point in saying anything to my father or if he’ll just brush it off. I just felt sorry for her then and I think it was wrong, no matter what might have happened. But I can hardly tell off my parent because we are all adults..