Separated about 18 months ago, divorce nearly final and I have started dating again. Met a nice guy online and have been seeing him about 5-6 months now. I have 2 older teenage girls (one’s an adult) he has 2 kids 9 and 12. I have introduced him to my children but only v briefly as their contact schedule with their dad is very fluid so they have occasionally been here when I wasn’t expecting them to be - so they know I have a boyfriend, they have put a face to a name and had a v brief conversation, not planning to involve him in their lives more than that for a long time and they know that.
His kids - not remotely expecting to meet them for at least another 6 months but at the moment they don’t even know he is dating and a rare planned evening is frequently cut short because his eldest has randomly turned up at his house and is demanding to know when he will be home (he has a key but obviously can’t be left alone for long). He probably has the kids overall 50/50, but often has one but not the other - but either way we can’t even chat because they don’t know about me.
I should cut my losses shouldn’t I? I’m going to have an empty nest very soon and need to sort my life out to not need a man in it. If I keep evenings free on the basis he ‘might’ be able to come over for a couple of hours I’m going to be miserable.
Or is it worth just seeing where it goes because god knows there’s slim pickings out there for the more mature woman (I’m 49 in 3 weeks - reasonably attractive, good job, shit together but still 49)