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Post Christmas/holiday blues - feel dreadful - want to retire but can’t

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feelingstifled · 22/01/2024 18:26

My DH has just had a month off work and my own job (self employed) has been slow, so I’ve had time off as well. In that time we had some amazing experiences. We had family visit, our adult children came for Christmas, our DD got married which was the best day ever, and we spent time with friends we hadn’t seen in years. We also had an amazing vacation and lots of romantic time.

Fast forward to now and it’s back down to earth with a huge bump. My DH is back to working long unsociable hours, I am back to work, our adult kids are back to their own homes and one has emigrated to the other side of the globe.

I am sitting here alone, after having had a ready meal for one for my dinner, and I just feel so sad.

My DH can retire in about 4 years, but I’m not sure how to slog on for that much more time. I’ve been working full time since I was 16 (so almost 40 years), and I’m so ready to jack it in, and spend life in the way we did the last month.

I know no one can help, but wondered whether anyone else can relate? I feel almost on the edge of panic!

It is 10 months before I can take another break from work. My job entails very early wake ups every day and being outside in this freezing weather a lot. I’m so wishing I was back on vacation in the warm weather with nothing to do. I’m also missing my DC who has emigrated as they are so far away.

Moan over. I think I need to start playing the lottery 😂

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tsmainsqueeze · 22/01/2024 18:36

I can totally relate , i have been working the same length of time as you and i have had enough now ,really like my job and my colleagues / friends but just want my time to be my own .
I think this time of year doesn't help as it's so bloody miserable.
I think i may join you with the lottery - you just never know whats round the corner !

feelingstifled · 22/01/2024 18:40

Thanks for the reply! I know we’re lucky in so many ways but I’ve just had enough now! I want to be free. Living that life for a month has showed us what life could be like!!

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Onlyhadonejob · 22/01/2024 18:45

I'm in the same mindset... I just want to retire, reduce stress and have freedom to do my own thing. From a pension point of view I would lose a lot retiring now. I planned to do 2 more years and get to 60 but I am so fed up. I am thinking of a total change of job to just keep me interested a bit longer.

feelingstifled · 22/01/2024 18:53

It’s hard isn’t it? I’m definitely going to keep going at least for another 6 years with my job (DH will join me in my job when he retires from his), but oh boy it’s like a slap in the face to be back at work now the holiday is over.

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