Is this threatening behaviour?

[Tranquilaroma]

EX H has sent messages this evening stating how I have pissed him off so much and he is going to message my fiancé a very altered reality of events that happened a year ago regarding my EX H and I.
He has sent the message and then proceeded to send that he has " plenty of ammo in his arsenal"

A couple months ago whilst I was on a short trip he messaged saying he had seen my partner with another woman in a coffee shop. (Untrue as at the supposed time my partner was at work and we had facetimed)

Over the past couple of years he has sporadically sent messages which leave me very sad and scared on what he may bring up or share with friends/family. We were together for a number of years and I have shared the majority of my life, my shameful past etc. And he has used that in messages stating 'he knows so much'.

I am not sure what I am meant to do. In these moments I live in a great state of anxiety. Scared to respond incase of provoking and what he may bring up.

Advice is really appreciated.

It’s harassment. Report it to the police.

Can you block him ?

First message nails it. Don't hesitate, police.

Report to police
Keep a diary
Reach out for support to women charity who will have further guidance and advice.

Do you have children with the exh ?
If not then block on everything and report any further attempts as harassment
If you do then do the same and use one of those third party parenting apps

Yes we share a child.

I feel really anxious reporting this will really rock the boat.. that would be the tipping point for him just sharing everything and creating more lies.

Who cares if he shares anything. Everyone you know knows he's a liar, I'm sure, and they won't care what he has to say, anyway. He is only saying all this to intimidate and control you. Take your power back and report this arsehole to the police.

Take screenshots of all messages in case he tries to delete them, especially if they're on WhatsApp.

Police.

Or ‘go for it, sunshine’, which would be my preferred response.

But please don’t cower in fear of him.

I reported my ex and the police told me that men do this to continue to abuse you and cause anxiety, by letting them get away with it you are giving them more power. He can only hurt you if you give the power for him to do that, so what if he makes something up? People know it's either lies or that your private life is none of their business. Report him and free yourself.

He's tipped already. With men like him the ONLY thing that works is firm boundaries and recourse to authority.

Don't negotiate with terrorists.

Get him reported. I had to report my DHs ex for harassment. They didn't speak to her or anything but it's logged in case anything does happen in future as it shows a pattern of behaviour.

Block him on everything and get your OH to block him as well. Use a parenting app to sort anything to do with your DC.

I've dealt with the same shit. DHs ex messaged me a load of bullshit about things my DH had apparently done, made up some nonsense about him committing fraud, stealing money and has even threatened me at DSDs Xmas show and said my parents will be receiving court citations. None of anything she's said ever materialised or turned out to be true. Not that I ever believed it for a second.

I initially reported her to police when she made malicious calls to mine and DHs work and reported me to environmental health. Now I just add on any other incidents.