Feel awful, mums birthday

[dirkdaniels]

Hi everyone.

Need some help on how to navigate a situation. I feel AWFUL and in disbelief.

Last Sunday 14th, I drove up to see my mum at her house. It was her birthday on the 18th, but is away on a trip this weekend, hence me going a few days early.

I threw her a surprise mini party, invited my GP, we had party hats, decorated her kitchen with birthday banners and balloons, we had nibbles, pizza, I baked her a chocolate cake, cookies and cupcakes etc, and delivered her presents.

She really really loved it, all great. I also surprised her with a piece of expensive jewelry as she's had a shit year, and wanted to spoil her.

I then woke up on 17th floored with flu, DH too. Spent a few days moping around, eating shit,not cooking,sleeping. Finally felt better last night. However, I also realised I completely forgot my mum's actual birthday on the 18th. I didn't send her a text or a happy birthday message.

I feel like a massive arsehole. Do I be honest and say sorry, was very ill, completely slipped my mind. OR do I drop a casual text, asking how is her trip, did she have a nice day on her birthday?

I don't know how i've monumentally fucked up, I've never done this before! I feel so shit as she must be so upset.

You know your mum better than any anonymous person on the internet. Do you think she would prefer honesty or a lie?

I think you need to calm down

Phone her and tell her you've had dire flu you hope that she's fine/didnt catch it. and then ask how was her actual birthday?

Ring her and explain x Hope you’re feeling better now x

She will totally understand. If you were sick you were sick.

If it were me, I would totally understand. Just ask her if she had a nice day

Totally agree with this.

Thank you. God I feel like an absolute idiot. She loves fuss/making fuss for others on birthdays. Going to have to ring and explain.

Gosh you do sound quite intense! Just chat to your mum and explain.

She's your mum, she'll be far more concerned about you being ill than about getting a happy birthday text. So obviously tell the truth.
The after effects of flu can make you feel quite depressed and anxious, which is probably why you're so worried about this.

You went to so much effort and fuss for your mum, I’m sure she won’t mind and would have been busy on her trip. Just explain you were bedridden with the flu and were in and out of sleep all day and you hope she had a lovely day.