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Being blocked

9 replies

Lalalalaallala · 21/01/2024 14:07

I’m annoyed I’m upset about this so just need someone to give my head a wobble!

An ex got in touch with me just before Christmas after not speaking for around 10 months. Amicable break up- he just moved to the other end of the country for work, no drama and we hadn’t been together that long at the time- around 7 months. I’m under no illusion that he just messaged to hook up and I was fine with this so we agreed to meet between Christmas and new year as I was going on holiday with the girls at the beginning of January. As it happens it never went ahead as he had to go back home early to deal with a work emergency. I was fine with this and wasn’t hugely invested so just messaged him saying no problem, it had been nice to talk to him and all the best for 2024, he replied with similar new year sentiments and that was that. Fast forward to today and when I went on WhatsApp to reply to a friend I noticed his profile photo had disappeared from our chat in the list and I could no longer see his last seen/online status so I’m clearly blocked.

As I said I wasn’t particularly invested in meeting up with him or anything and it certainly wasn’t like I wanted to rekindle the relationship (he was nice enough but we’d never have worked long term!) but I can’t help but be upset at being blocked after he was the one in got in touch and after a seemingly pleasant exchange and over 3 weeks after we last spoke! I only block people if they’ve done something terrible so that’s probably skewing my thinking but maybe some people are just a bit more liberal with the block button. I just find the whole thing a bit upsetting and bizarre!

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SamW98 · 21/01/2024 14:14

He wanted a shag, he didn’t get a shag from you. Probably got it from someone else and you’re no longer of use to him would be my guess

Quitelikeit · 21/01/2024 14:17

He might have deleted WhatsApp

Jennyjojo5 · 21/01/2024 14:22

SamW98 · 21/01/2024 14:14

He wanted a shag, he didn’t get a shag from you. Probably got it from someone else and you’re no longer of use to him would be my guess

100% this. It’s happened to me before, sadly not uncommon!
also may well be he has a new gf so is covering his tracks so an unexpected text from you doesn’t pop up on his phone

CharmedCult · 21/01/2024 14:26

He will probably pop up again next time he wants a shag.

At which point you ignore the message and block him.

Lalalalaallala · 21/01/2024 14:40

@SamW98@Jennyjojo5@CharmedCult youre probably right! Blocking just seems a bit extreme to me in this situation. He’ll have a hard job popping up again anyway if this is the case as I’ve blocked him myself and deleted his number 🤣. Probably sounds a bit hypocritical but I don’t want him messing with my feelings going forward!

@Quitelikeit definitely blocked as he showed up when I added his number to my friends phone (I’m not a stalker I swear I was just so baffled i checked 😂)

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Amberjane41 · 21/01/2024 15:06

My guess is he’s seeing someone. Fancied a hook up when he was in the area but then went home and was worried you might text him when his girlfriend was around and didn’t want it popping up on his phone and her seeing it, hence he blocked you. Nothing to do with you, he’s just a dick by the sounds of it

Indifferentchickenwings · 21/01/2024 19:24

Yeah I think he’s got a GF and has an attack of the guilts and nerves
nothing about you

he’s a dick

Lalalalaallala · 21/01/2024 19:37

@Amberjane41 @Indifferentchickenwings that would make sense! I mean I didn’t think he was the type of guy who would do something like that but I can’t think of any other reason why he would have blocked me and realistically I suppose I didn’t know him that well.

I'm feeling a bit better about it tonight but it’s hard not to feel a little hurt/upset

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samestyle · 21/01/2024 20:25

I would think he's got a gf and doesn't want you popping up on his phone.
Let it be the end of it, he obviously can't be mature about things even if it was for something casual.

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