Just a quick recap of my situation - separated last June from a 15 year relationship but was ready to separate years before that. Was in an emotional/supportive relationship on/off last year with a guy going through a divorce who I knew from primary school and who has always dipped in/out of my life. This time I fell for him fast but it wasn't reciprocated and he had two very short relationships with others so I backed right off. But even when he was in the other relationships he wouldn't let me fully go which obviously messed with my head.
Fast forward to now... we are both single and have mutually agreed to have a fwb arrangement. We had this in our 20s (20 years ago) and it was amazing. I am OLD and will obviously end the arrangement if I met anyone.
So the issue... we get on amazingly and the sexual attraction is huge and always has been. We can talk for hours, we 'get' each other and always find a way back to each other (dipped in and out of each others lives for most of our lives). But he doesn't seem to want me like that. The women he's dated most recently are what he describes as negative, moody, selfish... all the things he knows I'm not.
I'm past the emotional upset of knowing he doesn't want me like that and moving on to OLD was a big step for me, but the practical side of me still can't understand it. Is it to do with attachment styles? He tells me he wants to meet someone at some point and marry again... why can't he see me as that potential someone?