10 years together, prison 2 years separated. He soon gets out and I have not moved on

[dani1394]

Hi all. I’m 30 years old & have one child to my ex partner of 10 years.

he has been in prison for non violent charges ( not willing to go into what, it’s private) for 2 years and gets our very soon.

in this 2 years I thought I would have a totally different life. Yet it feels like nothing has changed. I started up my own little company, got on a health kick & raised our son alone, but I had thought I would be involved with a new man by now even if just dating. As I haven’t even met another man during this time I’m getting nervous and an intense pressure that I feel irritated that I haven’t moved on. He would like us to try again as a family but to much has happened, so that’s a no but in the back of my mind I do think about it a little. I just don’t know what to do :(

"Haven't moved on" as in relationship rather than life. And that's ok. You absolutely HAVE moved on with life. Stay your course.

If you don't want to get back with him, then just dont. He isnt entitled to any sort of romantic relationship with you. You don't need to do anything other than co-parent civilly for your son's sake.

You sound like you've moved on brilliantly, actually. Find a new man when you're good and ready.

@dani1394 I can see where you are coming from as a friend is/was in the exact situation. The right thing to do is be happy with who you are/what you have achieved BUT if you aren't that person, then what my friend did is absolutely throw herself into dating apps. She was talking to about 8 men a week, then this turned into one actual date per week. Eventually she met someone (its a numbers game) and I can see she now feels confident again in herself now her husband is out of prison. I think as a singleton, she wouldn't have felt happy facing him.

It's not how I did things in that my ex wasn't in prison, and I wish I met someone, but it never happened!

Watch this space...

His sentence was long enough because being out after 2 years implies a much longer sentence, his crime was serious. It had a significant impact on your life and the life of your child. He may not have changed too much so there is every chance you could be back in this position again.

I can understand you still having feelings for the man but you need to move on.