About flashbacks

[Xala]

Hi everyone,I am new here.i wanted advice if possible.i am living happily with my partner 6 and half years now.But sometimes things haunts me.Like when we was dating 1ce a week(and on our after 4st date I had 1night stand with someone else),I did it because I was annoyed due to my partner on our dating phase used to ask me weird questions(like how many guys did I slept with so far and to give me cheeky smile) and also why I wouldn't marry as he is intention not to marry ever etc.As I didn't know him well I was angry and done that mistake.I never told him.But we are very happy now and he asked me to marry him now which i happily accepted.But my guestion is I feel like guipt tripping even after all those years as i shouldn't done it.I cant tell him as it will break him and i love him too much.But i dont know how to erase from my memory as well.please help.But please don't be judgemental.

Forgive yourself. It was early days and you won't do it again. Try not to think on it. Put it down to bad judgement and crack on. If it happened recently I would say you need to tell him but as it was right at the start there's no point now ( unless you didn't use contraception in which case get yourself checked out and tell him anything you need to as a result of that).

I was thinking the same as it's irrelevant now and we both happy with each other a lot.I just don't know why I keep getting these flashbacks as it was 6years and half ago.And I never getted that flashbacks just started from 3-4months ago which is everyday I get that and I feel so guilty about it.Even though I know we wasn't there yet (wasn't official).I just don't know how to forgive myself and accept it and let it go....

Also I have to stay we declared to each other on 6th date that we only seeing each other which made us official.(incident happened on 4th date which was before we was exclusive/official).But I still don't know why keep thinking that I am guilty.

Hi ,I am new here and hope you all ok .I wanted some advice regarding my anxiety.
I have been in a relationship 7years with my bf and we do love each other a lot.But when we started to date on the beginning he used to ask me inappropriate questions like how many guys have you been so far and he used to say he doesn't want to get married in a future and why I wouldn't marry someone from my culture.That guestions used to hurt me even though we only dated like 4dates.But we did get intimate on 2nd date (I know it's too early but unfortunately it's happened).Anyway I went to my own place after 4th date and removed him from my contacts and again gone online and hanged out with one guy next day and got intimate.I know it's sound bad and I did regretted next day and informed that guy that I don't want to be with him which he agreed and said no hard feelings.So my current bf texted me again after 7days and wanted to hang out and i did.And since I have been loyal to him and i am very happy with him,but i have that guilt that after 4dates with him i had one night with someone else.i know we wasnt committed on that time but still that keeps haunting me.I did get advice and therapist said i shouldnt mention that to my bf and have to let the feeling somehow to go as it we wasnt comitted on that time.But still i feel guilty.