Am I being selfish

[LJD87]

I’m really struggling with my partners shift work, OH does 6 days early shifts, day shifts and nights. I work part time around school hours and we have two young children 5 & 2. I feel like I’m doing everything with the kids and around the house. Constantly waiting for him to come home and get upset when he’s late. I feel like he is either working or sleeping. Am I being selfish? I didn’t sign up to do it all alone and this is a new job for him so only the beginning. Any advice would be appreciated.

Why is he late? Does he go to the pub after work? That would be a piss take.

Otherwise I don't think you can grumble if he's working so you can work part time.

My partner used to do shift work so I can relate to what you're going through. When we fell pregnant with our second he decided to get a new job that was more suitable to our family life!

No not going pub, just get caught up at work. I had to get the part time job around the kids due to his job change. Think I’m just finding it difficult to adjust to the different work pattern he has.

How many hours does he do a shift if over 6 days? I'm guessing short shifts unless he's doing a ridiculous number of hours. When he's on days or earlies he should have time to be more hands on - so 2/3 of the time. Nights are always going to be tricky.

usually 10hr shifts. Leaves at least an hour before start time and gets home way after finish time. So not helping so much around the house, which I have spoken to him about. Think maybe we need to find our flow with the new shift pattern